(Closed) Which wedding traditions are you not having?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 47
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We are not doing:

– Something old, new, borrowed, blue

– No rehearsal dinner (it’s a 20 minute ceremony at the registry office – nothing to rehearse!)

– No garter toss

– No cake smushing

– Most likely spending the night together pre-ceremony (I have OCD and can’t stay elsewhere, FI’s groomsmen both have young children and no spare room)

– No honeymoon (I have to go back to uni the week after the wedding – we might have one in December)

Post # 48
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@orchidaloha:  We aren’t doing any of the traditions.

Post # 49
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i don’t plan on doing a garter toss. i may do a bouquet toss, but it depends on who we have at the wedding. if it’s family only, everyone is already married.. so it’s silly to have a bouquet toss. i actually think i’ll give my bouquet to the couple who have been married the longest. i saw that idea online, and i love the idea.

Post # 50
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are not having a first dance




Im not throwing my bouquet




Im not wearing a veil




And I don’t know if this counts or not, but we are having a round top table as opposed to a long one and all our guests tables are round too. 


Edit: We are also not being “announced” into the reception


Post # 52
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Great thread. 🙂 I’m happy to see I’m not the only one breaking tradition. 

  • Getting married at a wood lodge. Making outside our church 🙂 Ceremony and reception at same location. 
  • No candle or tree or sand. Traditional vows and communion instead.
  • No cake. Dessert bar instead. Therefore, no cake cutting. 
  • No garter removal. 
  • No bouquet toss. 
  • No program. Chalkboard instead.
  • No favors. 
  • No flower girls or ring bearers. Our sons will be part of ceremony though. 
  • No limo
  • No bachelorette party. The boys are going fishing, if that counts. lol 

We weren’t going to do wedding parties but decided on having them. I haven’t decided weather I will have a Vail or not yet. 

Post # 54
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

No ring bearer or flower girl.

No limos – our new house is 3 miles from the venue, waste of $$$

No bouquet toss

No garter toss (I’m 54 and there’s no way in H— my Fiance is doing that lol).

No entrance – we’re taking photos before so we can join the cocktail hour and eat!

No father/daughter dance or mother/son dance.

No send off

No programs

No favors – we’re having a sundae bar at the very end.

I’m debating the bridal shower right now, not feeling that either…and I don’t Fiance is doing the bachelor party…



Post # 55
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

no veil over the face coming down the aisle

no wedding showers

no head table

no engagement party

no unity candle

no flower girls or ring bearers



Post # 56
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We had:

No cake, so no cake cutting

Very few speeches

Stayed home one month before our honeymoon

For the honeymoon, we went to New York with my parents (they have an awesome property right near Times Square) and then Mexico with our best friends.

Post # 57
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have nothing to do with the planning of the ceremony. My Fiance is handling that. I’m in charge of the reception.


Reception is going to be in my uncle’s backyard. I want BBQ style buffet, but we’ll see what the fiance says. 


We have co-maids of honor and co-best men. And we have older flower girls. No ring bearer. That job is going to the junior bridesmaid. (calling her the ring bearer seemed stupid with her age.)


There will be no real flowers anywhere. I think they’re a waste of money. So I’m making flowers from ribbon. There may be one real one because of the Catholic tradition of presenting your bouquet to Mary.


I probably won’t be wearing a garter at all. So no toss. There won’t be tossing any of anything. 


Instead of actual physical gifts we will be registering for gift cards. It’s more practical seeing as if I get in the grad school I want we’ll be living in a dorm room as newlyweds. 



Post # 58
2279 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

-no cake

-no ring bearer

-pictures before ceremony

-no receiving line

-no white dress (it will be pink!)

That’s it for my tradition-shattering so far haha

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