Post # 17
We are not tossing anything at our single friends.
While the “dollar dance” is traditional in both our cultures, we aren’t doing it because neither of us wants to slow dance with that many people!
I’d skip the traditional dances, too, but my dad would be heartbroken if he didn’t get a father/daughter dance and if I’m dancing with dad I guess I need to dance with my husband too.
Post # 18
My brother “officiated” (marrying couples are allowed to marry themselves in Colorado, which ultimately is how it is recorded on our certificate)
That’s cool! I didn’t know that was possible anywhere.
Now that I think of it, I’m not sure I’m even going to wear an ao dai myself. I don’t have the greatest body type for it, and I’d rather spend the money on something else. Some of my relatives are heading to the homeland this year, though, so I might ask them to get one made for me in a forgiving fabric. It’s up in the air at this point haha
Post # 19
@Mokara: I’m rearranging one of the traditions- I am doing speeches at the formal rehearsal dinner. No one cares to hear those at the wedding.
I am doing an alternative toss because nearly everyone is already married. I’m doing a coach wristlet toss for the women if they catch the bouquet, and for the men- we are doing a football toss for a Sports Authority giftcard.
Post # 20
@Mokara: Yeah, Darling Husband wanted an Ao Dai after he saw some photos online. However, neither of us donned our khan dong headpieces cuz I’ve never been a fan of those.
I eschewed a few more traditions by adding a Japanese-style obi sash to mine (showed off my waist better) made by an Etsy seller, and I had the back flap of the ao dai extend longer than usual to form a mini train.
Our outfits were made at Ao Dai Vinh in HCM City (they have a website), and my aunt who lives there visited them often to make sure things were going smoothly. Anyway, you should totally ask for some fabric – it’s nice stuff and if it doesn’t work out, you could use it for something else!
Post # 21
We aren’t doing the garter or bouquet toss. Everything else, I think we are doing.
Post # 22
Thanks! I think my cousin is planning to swing down there for a week or two.
Post # 23
I’m not throwing my bouquet because I hate throwing anything and the thought of over 100 people watching me makes me anxious just thinking about it! :p I’ll probably just hand it straight over to my Maid/Matron of Honor because she’s getting married a month after me 🙂
Post # 24
No garter or bouquet toss. No mother/son or father/daughter dance. My mom and no other family member (no, not one) except my dad will be at my wedding. It is a very small wedding. I doubt we will have speeches. And we are paying for everything. 😀
Post # 25
we did not do the garter toss or the bouquet toss. We also didnt do “I’m too sexy” (where the groom dances with all the women, or “I knew the bride when she used to rock and roll (the opposite). Both are featured at virtually all the weddings around here. We also didnt have a wedding cake per say, we had cakes at every table. I actually think there were a few things, I just cant remember them all.
The biggest one that was noticed was no toast to the bride or groom. Just a one line toast. Basically “congrats to the couple – lets raise our glasses” type thing. We did not feel comfortable being so focused on by everyone even though that is the name of the game with weddings…
Post # 26
- Wedding: August 2015 - Suncor Fluvarium
We won’t be doing a garter/bouquet toss, or having a dance.
We are having a day time wedding, and neither of us like to dance really. I am sad that we won’t be having our “first” dance, and I won’t be dancing with my stepfather, but, we are also doing it to elevate some family drama that will no doubt occur on my bio dad’s side of the family.
Post # 27
No cake, no favours, no bouquet or garter toss, no white dress (its dusty rose). We are also doing a first look, so breaking that tradition of not seeing the bride til the ceremony.
Post # 28
@lalalyanne: Love how you are sharing your father/daughter dance between dad and stepdad – very sweet 🙂
Post # 29
@HonoraryNerd: Curious…what is an anniversary dance? Thanks!
Post # 30
@Mokara: No bouquet/garter toss (who does that anymore??? My friends and I were very much like the Sex and the City girls when a bouquet was tossed…we just let it hit the floor lol), no cake (cupcakes and dessert table), blush dress, groom in a kilt
Post # 31
– No sand/candle/other unity “two becomes one” ritual at the ceremony
– No garter or bouquet toss
– We are sleeping together the night before the wedding
– No favors (well, we have a photobooth, which some people consider a favor)
– No getaway car (more of a tradition in the south than the Northeast where I’m from)
I think that’s about it!