(Closed) Which wedding traditions are you NOT including in your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 32
8419 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We had a small Destination Wedding so a lot of things we skipped

* no garter/bouquet toss

* No bride and groom speeches….we only had Maid/Matron of Honor and best man speech

*No parents speeches

*No get away car

*We stayed together the night before (really no choice it was a DW)

*No unity candle

*No guestbook (again small DW)

* No flower girl

Post # 33
1669 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t think we are going to have speeches.

I am not throwing a bouquet – I’m of the age (33) where my remaining few single friends would not appreciate it. I know I haven’t over the years.

I’m not even wearing a garter so we certainly aren’t tossing that either.

Post # 34
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We won’t do the garter toss, our reception is early afternoon, so too innappropriate. No unity candle/sand in the ceremony either.

Post # 35
2347 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We are not having a ring bearer or flower girl.  We don’t have any kids in our family on either side, so why do it.

Also, my mom is giving me away as my father passed when I was a baby, and my best friend Brendan is my man-of-honor Tongue Out

Post # 36
1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Toronto2014:  thanks 🙂 I think it’ll be sweet. I’m also going to have them on either side of me walking me down te aisle. I’m lucky because they get along and are totally more than willin to do whatever. My dad has never been overbearing or possessive and my step dad is so honoured. It’ll be amazing!

Post # 37
1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

The only things that I think we’re leaving out are signing a ketubah and circling the groom.  We’re both culturally Jewish, but we’re having a secular ceremony.  I’m really on the fence about breaking the glass.  Neither of us like what it represents, but it look like so much fun to do! Other than those, we’re doing just about every tradition that white, Jewish people can do plus the “chicken dance” because my mother INSISTS that it is a cultural thing for her, and she was so upset that my sister refused to do it at her wedding.  When my Fiance asked me what culture the chicken dance is related to, I was like, “Um, drunk Germans?”

Post # 38
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Aww, I’m an odd one out – the speeches are my favourite part at weddings! I always cry.

We’re going the sheet cake route too, though we have a small cake to cut for the photo op.

No garter toss, because nobody’s going up my dress in front of all my family, then throwing my (probably sweaty because it’s been on my thigh under a thousand layers of fabric) garter to a bunch of men. We might do a football toss in it’s place, but not sure yet.

We’re not doing a traditional bouquet toss either – we’re inviting ALL women up and whoever catches it gets a gift card to a spa.

No unity sand/candle

No flower girl or ring bearer

No getaway – our wedding is in the hotel where we’ll be staying, so we’ll probably just wave goodbye to whoever’s around and head upstairs haha.

Post # 39
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

*No garter/bouquet toss

*No formal cake cutting

*No speeches

*No DJ

*Very short and secular ceremony

*No getaway car

*Formal photos before the ceremony, including bride and groom

*No flower girl/ring bearer

Post # 40
1210 posts
Bumble bee

– No garter/bouquet toss

– No cake

– No flowers

– No formal “getaway”

– No ring bearer or flower girls

– No hotel room (we are going back home after the wedding)

Post # 41
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

No tossing of anything… probably won’t wear a garter, and that whole ritual has ALWAYS creeped me out.  I haven’t enjoyed the bouquet catch once in the history of ever, plus I don’t have very many single girlfriends, and I feel like that tradition is a bit taunting and weird too.

If it were up to me, I’m not sure we’d dance with our parents, mostly because I find slow dancing with my father kinda awkward, but I know he would be devastated if we didn’t, and I suspect my FI’s mother feels the same way.

We’re not having a big send-off (at least, none planned so far) or leaving for our honeymoon right away.

I may be forgetting others, but those are the main ones Smile

Post # 42
2113 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Toronto2014:  The DJ asks all married couples to go out on the dance floor and will have people sit down in increments by how short they’ve been married. Bride and groom sit first, then anyone under 5 years, 10 years, so on until one couple remains. Those that have been married the longest and they get the bouquet.

Post # 43
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

There were no speeches at our wedding. We just didn’t see it as necessary. Our officiant did extend thanks on our behalf, and that was it. We were very happy with it.

We did do the bouquet and garter toss – but they were just thrown. There was no climbing under the dress. I get that’s all in good fun, but I just don’t see it as appropriate or fitting with an event that is otherwise formal.

My dad didn’t walk me down the aisle. I walked solo.

We didn’t have a wedding party, with the exception of a ringbearer. Unnecessary drama avoided. Our siblings did sign the marriage license, though.

We didn’t do the dollar dance.

We had a completely secular ceremony.


Post # 44
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@lalalyanne:  I thought about just having bridesmaids, too, but how do you pick who signs the marriage license?  I will have my childhood friend from preschool that I still talk to regularly that lives out of state, my best friend here in state since middle school, and my older sister.  I wasn’t the Maid/Matron of Honor at my sister’s wedding, but I’ve always been torn if I should still have her as mine. (I was 18 when she got married and was not really the on-the-ball organizer, but it still hurt me that I’m not on her marriage license and she doesn’t even hardly talk to the girl who was her MOH).

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