(Closed) Which wedding traditions did you skip?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek

We skipped everything but the aisle walk and cake cutting. Both of those were compromises for me, I would have gladly skipped them as well. Preferred to walk in with D H but he wanted the whole aisle moment. Neither of us likes cake and we had a variety of desserts for guests but my mother in law (whom I adore bc she’s the sweetest) insisted cake cutting was necessary so I grabbed one at the local grocery store omw to the venue. πŸ˜„ Honeymoon cruise was like 6 days after so not immediate.

no wedding party, first dance, speeches, bouquet or garter toss, pre wedding parties

Post # 3
2322 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

View original reply
chillbee29 :  We skipped pretty much everything: no bridal party, no first dances of any sort, no cake (at all, not just no cake cutting), we didn’t walk down the aisle, no bouquet toss (though I had one), no garter or toss, no bridal shower, we’re not religious so there were no religious aspects/traditions for us either.

We did have bachelorette/bachelor parties because our friends insisted, which were super fun so I’m glad we did that, exchanged vows and rings and had a honeymoon!

Post # 4
6262 posts
Bee Keeper

View original reply
chillbee29 :  we skipped almost everything. We had a small wedding party, did the bouquets (no toss though) and dress, exchanged rings… standard stuff. We only had a first dance because we were ‘forced’ but insisted guests join in within 30 seconds. Our guest book was a surprise gift of a collage puzzle… guests signed the box. Otherwise we wouldn’t have had even that. Not even a honeymoon for us… my husband went right back to work and I took a short road trip with my sister, lol. 

Post # 5
747 posts
Busy bee

Everything. Lol. We got married at City Hall and had lunch with our parents at one of our favorite restaurants in the city. Still one of the best things we ever did. 

Post # 6
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We skipped the engagement party or engagement announcements, bachelorette and bachelor parties, bridal shower, bridal party, and I didn’t do the “something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue.”

We also stayed with each other the night before the wedding and I saw him the morning of.

Post # 7
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’ll do an aisle walk but just me and my bridesmaids I won’t be given away by my father. If I get my preferred venue, I can walk across a balcony and enter at the front through a secret door. I’m not tossing the bouquet, my friend is making me a brooch one for me to keep. During speeches I will also give a speech. 

We will do a first dance and a cake cutting because my fiancé is quite traditional and wants to do those things. 

Post # 8
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

We skipped the engagment party and we won’t be doing the garter toss!! We are by no means prude but it feels a little weird to do that in front of our friends and family and we don’t want it to be forced lol.

Post # 9
3140 posts
Sugar bee

We skipped/are skipping:

  • engagement announcements and engagement party (felt too gift-grabby to me)
  • having a bridal party
  • bouquet toss/garter toss
  • parent/child special dances (still undecided on whether we will have a first dance)
  • favors
  • welcome bags
  • bachelorette/stag/etc parties
  • being walked down the aisle by parents

I’m sure there’s other “traditions” we’re skipping but I can’t think of them right now!

Post # 10
310 posts
Helper bee

We skipped basically everything apart from:

– hen party (friends insisted)

– exchanging rings (I think it’s nice)

– cake cutting, but only because a family friend really wanted to send us a traditional cake from my home country

– accidental walk down the ‘aisle’ (wasn’t really an aisle) as I was too late to walk in together with DH

Post # 11
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Chesapeake, VA

I believe we will do the traditional customs except we plan to have a beach ceremony rather than a church ceremony. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
7 posts
  • Wedding: November 2018 - Pine Paradise, Kentucky

Most of our wedding was untraditional. 

We skipped: 

Paper invites (we did paper STDs then I created a fb group since we had a smaller wedding. Mother-In-Law was very upset and said it was so tacky but it worked)

Gown shopping trip (I bought a very nice dress from Lulus by myself)

Engagement party

Bridal shower and registry

Bachelor/Bachelorette parties

Bouquet/garter toss

Large bridal party (only Best Man and Maid of Honor)



We personalized the ceremony with our best friend as the officiant and asking our family to be speakers instead of exchanging vows. I wasn’t going to do cake cutting or first dance, but they actually turned out to be some of the best parts of the reception πŸ™‚ His aunt surprised us with a gorgeous homemade cake so I wanted to show it off. And we found out our venue has a “support pole” so our first dance was definitely different 

Also please excuse my husband. Immediately after pictures his jacket came off. This was taken towards the end of the night 


Post # 13
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

We are skipping the bridal party, no engagement party/announcement, no bridal shower, we will be staying together the night before the wedding and seeing each other the morning of the wedding. We are doing the walk down the aisle with my brother walking me down, exchange of rings and vows, cake cutting, first dance, bouquet/garter toss. 

Post # 14
546 posts
Busy bee

Skipping the bouquet toss and garter toss. Not our cup’o’tea

Post # 15
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ours was really traditional but no garter toss. I didn’t even have a garter Lol

The topic ‘Which wedding traditions did you skip?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors