Which wedding traditions did you skip?

posted 10 months ago in Traditions
Post # 31
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Bumble bee

We are skipping…

 Engagement part, announcement, shower… 

Limos, bridal party, dancing, favors, gifts, bachelor  bachellorette, head table, garter, drunkenness, late night, no mc, no dj, etc. 

Keeping std, invites, ceremony, attire, photos, bouquet but no toss, family friendly, sit-down catered  dinner.  Perhaps family only  breakfast brunch morning after 

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Our wedding was basically one big laid back party.  We skipped: having it on a Saturday night(Sunday afternoon)/having my dad walk me down the aisle(both parents walked me down and welcomed my husband into the family, no giving me away)/church ceremony (20 min mixed faith ceremony that would have been outside if it hadn’t rained 20 min before)/no fancy table settings(our tables were named after wes Anderson films and my husband made the signs)/favors/programs/cake(pies instead and no first slice.  After the first dance we didn’t have anything that broke up the reception.  

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills

We were pretty traditional but didn’t have an engagement party or formal engagement announcements. Also, we skipped the garter toss since most of DH’s close friends (and the male guests) were already married. We also didn’t take our honeymoon until January (wedding was in August). 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We didn’t do an engagement party/announcement. I mean I posted a picture of my hand with my ring on facebook, so maybe that’s an “announcement?” But nothing official.

Ceremony was very untraditional. We were married in the same venue as the reception. DH’s very good friend was already an officiant in his brother’s wedding, so he’s registered and officiated our ceremony. I wrote the whole ceremony (pulled bits and pieces from the internet and whatnot) and it was all over in less than 10 mins. Nothing religious except Darling Husband smashed a glass (he’s Jewish) and we wrote our own vows.

Reception I suppose was pretty traditional, but we got most of the “boring” stuff out of the way early and it turned into a big party pretty quickly. We didn’t plan on doing the Hora, but a bunch of our friends got together and planned with the DJ to do it for us, which was unexpected but super fun. I’m so glad they did it.

Post # 35
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Blushing bee

Not married yet, but these are the things we are planning on skipping:

  • engagement announcement/party
  • bride being escorted down aisle
  • ceremony programs
  • parent dances
  • bouquet/garter toss
  • favors
Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

We had our wedding in my in-law’s big house. I didn’t want any pre-wedding parties, but my Maid/Matron of Honor gave me a shower. We only had the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man, no other wedding party. 

I walked into the living room where the ceremony was on my own. My cousin remarked no one gave me away, but heck I was 37, by that time I figured I belong to myself. My mom was too shy and uncomfortable around people to have walked me in. My mom gave my Future Mother-In-Law money for the wedding, in exchange for mom not having any obligations whatsoever except as a guest. 

There was a nice cake, and we did the cutting. I didn’t throw the bouquet, because that has “broken furniture” written all over it. My 6 nieces and nephews were there, they were all 4 years old and under. I couldn’t exclude them, they were a fixture anywhere their moms and grandma were around.

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