(Closed) Which wording for RSVP??

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which wording?
    Wording 1 : (5 votes)
    36 %
    Wording 2 : (4 votes)
    29 %
    Neither : (5 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    46675 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Mint2Bee:  Is there a reason you chose to reverse the wording of “on or before”?

    Post # 7
    Member
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Mint2Bee:  From my personal experience, I would definitely include the wording “X seats have been reserved in your honor” like you have in wording 2.  My family/friends and my fiance’s family/friends are used to different sets of wedding etiquette. Not everyone understood that addressing the envelope to “John Smith” meant that only John Smith was invited and I ended up getting plus ones added on to my guest list where I didn’t intend to have any.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Mint2Bee:  If you insist on using R.s.v.p. cards (they are not in fact “proper” etiquette, and there is limited evidence that they do in fact increase your rate of replies) then the best way to use them is to print them from a mail-merge so that the names of the guests are already filled in. Even if you are not printing them at home, any competent commercial printer will be able to do this if you supply him with an electronic version of your guest list. In that case the wording would be

    Miss Aspasia Phipps <– guest’s name, pre-printed

    __ accepts

    __ declines

    Miss Mint Bee’s invitation for 24 August 2013

    send one card for each individual guest: that way there is no-where for anyone to add additional attendees. The wording “have reserve seats in your honour” suggests that they have the right to those seats, and can fill them with alternative guests if your wanted guests cannot come. The “wouldn’t miss it for the world!” /  “Celebrating from afar” options are redundant when you follow it up with “___ of ___ guests invited will attend”, and sounds as though you are trying to hype the wedding and tell your guests how to feel.

     

     

    Post # 9
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    7901 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @aspasia475:  “The wording “have reserve seats in your honour” suggests that they have the right to those seats, and can fill them with alternative guests if your wanted guests cannot come.”

    I feel the same way about this. It makes it sound like the invitation is a ticket.

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