Post # 1
I know both are important for different reasons. Just wondering, in your mind which you would rather have, or both. For me, I’ve given up on being engaged and just want the ceremony now, thats more important to me than the bling. I want to be Mrs Woods, even if we have to elope. Part of me still wants the engagement but at this point in time, i think the marriage is the most important part, to me. I’m just curious about the reasons for engagement and whether you’d be willing to give that up for the ceremony. Thanks and best wishes!!
Post # 3
For me being engaged is just a necessary step to getting married, but I’m one of those people that doesn’t believe you need a ring to be engaged. As long as you have discussed with your partner and have both agreed and decided to get married… then you are engaged. I think that is why I get confused with ‘waiting’ people. If you know he is going to ask, and he knows you are going to say yes… You’re engaged.
So I would much rather just get married, there seems to be far much drama over rings these days (too big, too small, diamonds are evil, diamonds are the best, too cheap, too expensive) that the whole ring thing seems to over shadow the actual marriage.
Post # 4
@Sibiohan: thank god, i waas worried i’d be flamed for dissing the ring lol. prob still will be. we just got a car so our finances are tight right now. i’ve been thinking lets just elope, get the thing over with lol. i’ve waited for 1.5years sih and i’m done with e-rings and planning lol.
Post # 5
For us, the engagement part is a teeny tiny religious ceremony, so for me it is still very important. But definitely the marriage is the most important thing. That is, afterall, what is going to make you husband and wife and really start your lives together.
Post # 6
If I had to choose between getting E-ring and wait for a long time and getting married now and get E-ring later, I would choose getting married now. E-ring is a symbol of commitment and to get married. If you can get married first, why not!
Post # 7
If the ring is more important than actually getting married, someone has their priorities out of order.
Post # 8
Neither – it’s just the marriage. =)
Post # 9
I don’t think that the ring is more important. However, I’m fine with having a long engagement until our lives are more settled. So for me right now, the engagement is really important (as a sign of public commitment, not for the ring). The ceremony is important, too, but not something that needs to happen right now.
Post # 11
The marriage ceremony, be it a small JOP ceremony or a big wedding. I love my e-ring, but what it and my wedding band will represent is a hundred times more important.
Post # 12
My husband and I were dating for five years and got married on our fifth year anniversary, we had our wedding on our ten year anniversary. It was worth the wait!!
Post # 13
A ring does not an engagement or marriage make. The engagement itself isn’t important either — that’s just a statement of intention, but not the actual action itself. I would vastly prefer being married than having a ring which is a symbol of a committment I would rather make than talk about.
My SO talks about this a lot, actually…that he is happy we’re getting engaged, but is more excited to get married rather than “proving” via material that he does, in fact, wish to get married.
Post # 14
@Porkchop: Wait. What? The day you get married is your wedding day, no?
Post # 15
The ring and the “day of” weren’t what I felt to be most important. Rings and lovely ceremonies are great, but being married is by far and away what I wanted from my relationship.
Post # 16
Both for me. I don’t want a big wedding though and I don’t want a super expensive ring, so I think both would be reasonable.