(Closed) which would be more Important?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Which would appeal to you more?
    Having an E-ring to show friends : (9 votes)
    9 %
    Having the marriage ceremony : (56 votes)
    58 %
    Both : (31 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    189 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    For me being engaged is just a necessary step to getting married, but I’m one of those people that doesn’t believe you need a ring to be engaged. As long as you have discussed with your partner and have both agreed and decided to get married… then you are engaged. I think that is why I get confused with ‘waiting’ people. If you know he is going to ask, and he knows you are going to say yes… You’re engaged.

    So I would much rather just get married, there seems to be far much drama over rings these days (too big, too small, diamonds are evil, diamonds are the best, too cheap, too expensive) that the whole ring thing seems to over shadow the actual marriage.

    Post # 5
    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    For us, the engagement part is a teeny tiny religious ceremony, so for me it is still very important. But definitely the marriage is the most important thing. That is, afterall, what is going to make you husband and wife and really start your lives together.

    Post # 6
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If I had to choose between getting Engagement Ring and wait for a long time and getting married now and get Engagement Ring later, I would choose getting married now.  Engagement Ring is a symbol of commitment and to get married.  If you can get married first, why not!

    Post # 7
    5147 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If the ring is more important than actually getting married, someone has their priorities out of order.

    Post # 8
    1059 posts
    Bumble bee

    Neither – it’s just the marriage. =)

    Post # 9
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I don’t think that the ring is more important. However, I’m fine with having a long engagement until our lives are more settled. So for me right now, the engagement is really important (as a sign of public commitment, not for the ring). The ceremony is important, too, but not something that needs to happen right now.

    Post # 11
    4979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    The marriage ceremony, be it a small JOP ceremony or a big wedding. I love my e-ring, but what it and my wedding band will represent is a hundred times more important. 

    Post # 12
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My husband and I were dating for five years and got married on our fifth year anniversary, we had our wedding on our ten year anniversary. It was worth the wait!!

    Post # 13
    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    A ring does not an engagement or marriage make. The engagement itself isn’t important either — that’s just a statement of intention, but not the actual action itself. I would vastly prefer being married than having a ring which is a symbol of a committment I would rather make than talk about.

    My SO talks about this a lot, actually…that he is happy we’re getting engaged, but is more excited to get married rather than “proving” via material that he does, in fact, wish to get married.

    Post # 14
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Porkchop:  Wait. What?  The day you get married is your wedding day, no?

    Post # 15
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    The ring and the “day of” weren’t what I felt to be most important. Rings and lovely ceremonies are great, but being married is by far and away what I wanted from my relationship.

    Post # 16
    1430 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Both for me. I don’t want a big wedding though and I don’t want a super expensive ring, so I think both would be reasonable.

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