- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
Our wedding is January 1st in the NYC area. My dad offered to rent the Presidential Suite at a centrally located 5 star hotel for Fiance and I for our wedding night. We are having an evening wedding @ 5:30 and our reception will end at midnight.
Dad’s thoughts are that my girls and I can use the suite to get dressed and then after the reception, we can host an after party for our families. It would also be most convenient for our departure the next morning for our honeymoon.
I was planning to get dressed at the church (there is a guest suite) so that if the weather is wet or windy, we don’t have to worry about our hair being mussed ot our gowns getting wet or stained by salt if it snows (Farmer’s Almanac is saying snow).
I’m also concerned about getting dressed at the hotel as there might be parking issues for the hair & makeup crew, as well as traffic issues getting to the church and we are determined to have things run on-time. I also figured that dressing at the church might allow me to take some photos with my girls & my mom & the bridal party kids before the ceremony & thus allow us to actually attend some of our cocktail hour.
Lastly, I just don’t think that Fiance & I will want to entertain people in the suite after midnight when we have to travel early the next morning for our honeymoon. After NYE the night before and a long day of preparation followed by a night of emotions and celebrating, I’m guessing that we’ll just want to crash and that we won’t even really get to enjoy the suite, so the money he spends will just be wasted.
I thought I might ask my dad to upgrade our travel to first class instead. I shared this with my brother (figuring he might suggest it to my dad), and he said, “It’s his money so why should you care how Dad spends it? If he wants to get the suite for you just accept it and if you really want the travel upgrade, ask for that TOO.”
I know that my dad can well afford to give us both, that’s not the issue. I’m not one for being fussed over and I tend to be very level-headed about spending money so it just seems “splurgey.” We made it a point not to ask for or accept any money from my family as it sometimes seems to come with strings attached. I also am not particularly close to my dad so I’d feel funny about letting him spend so much money on something so frivolous.