Post # 1
If you were a bridesmaid in a wedding, which would you prefer as your gift from the bride:
a) a more expensive item, such as a nice piece of jewelry.
b) a smaller item (a less expensive piece of jewelry, an inexpensive clutch), but also having your hair and makeup paid for on the wedding day.
I am aware that anything pertaining to the wedding is not supposed to be viewed as a gift in etiquette terms, which is why I’d still give an actual material gift as well. And it would just be something I think they might like – not something designed to be worn on the wedding day. I’d probably get them each a pretty satin robe and then an under-$30 piece of jewelry.
Let me know your thoughts! Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
@laureneliz87: I’m giving my bridesmaids satin robes too, but I’m also including some other goodies in a faux leather makeup bag – here’s a link to a thread a posted a while ago, with lots of pics: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/let-me-help-you-cross-another-thing-off-your-list-bridesmaids-gifts#axzz2r03im2pH
Hopefully you get some ideas from it? 🙂
Post # 4
@laureneliz87: I don’t know how to vote! I am currently struggling with this myself – I have ideas but we are trying to keep it around $100 a person (we have 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 5 groomsmen which = lots of $$). I am interested to see the results. I think that it really depends on the position of your bridesmaids. If they are all financially secure then perhaps a nice (more expensive) gift would be most appreciated, if not then they would likely appreciate having some expenses covered.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s appropriate to pay for the hair and makeup as the gift. If you’re requiring your maids to get their hair and makeup done a certain way (or at all), it’s not really a gift. However, it is SUPER considerate of you to offer to pay for that. As a bridesmaid, I’d appreciate that a lot (it gets so expensive to be in someone’s wedding!).
I think small gifts are fine–but gifts that are personal to each of your girls would be best.
Post # 6
Hair & Makeup because I don’t know how to style my own or wear make up often.
I am particular about my jjewelry, so you can keep that and give me a GC for a massage.
Post # 7
I would much rather have my hair and makeup paid for instead of an expensive gift. I plan to do the same for my future BMs to help take the sting out of the cost of being in the wedding. I’m not sure what the social expectations are for how much to spend on your BMs, but as long as the proper gratitude is conveyed, the price of the gift doesn’t matter as much as the thought. Just my two cents though 😉
Post # 8
Hair and makeup, hands down.
Post # 9
Hair and makeup plus a gift! 🙂 I stink at doing my own hair but obviously want to look nice for my friends’ weddings, so having that cost covered would go a lot further for me personally. And any gift would be appreciated — it doesn’t have to be expensive!
Post # 10
I think hair/makeup is a good gift though- by the time the wedding comes around, theyve already spent so much money on other things, so not having to pitch in as much on the day of is great. I’m also terrible about having cash on me lol but that’s just me!
I am getting my maids earrings to wear on the day of. They are fancy enough for the wedding, but not so much that they can’t wear them for other occasions, and I found them for a great price on etsy. Since they will wear them again, at least they can look at it and remember my wedding. 🙂 I’m also pitching in for their hair/makeup (total is 140, I’m asking them to pay 100), and personalized Tervis tumblers.
I think practicality is important- will they use this gift again? Those personalized wine/champagne glasses are cute, but I got one for a wedding last year, and we left them at my friends house because we all got ready and headed to the wedding. My friend evenutally got it back to me, but it seemed like a wasted gift. I like the tumblers because they can use that as their coffee/tea mug- good for hot or cold drinks. I always have mine, so hopefully they will like theirs! Christmas ornaments are a great gift too!
Post # 11
Having my hair and makeup done for sure. Honestly, I don’t need any more jewelry, trinkety or useless things. But I would appreciate looking extra good in a wedding
Post # 12
Definitely hair and make up done!
Post # 13
Definitely the second, hair and makeup cost a lot and they wouldn’t have to pay for it if it wasn’t for your wedding!
I am paying for all that plus I got them these earrings from Kate Spade… so pretty!
Post # 14
I’m not sure your budget but I hired a make up artist to come to me and I’m in the process of hiring a hair stylist. make up alone is $50/girl. Hair I don’t have a quote on so I guess it depends on what you plan on spending jewellry wise. I would say hair and make up but that can be expensive cost alone for 1 person to pay because I’m guessing with my girls its gonna be $100/person for hair and make up. $600 just wasn’t in the budget plus that doesn’t include my hair/make up.
I have 6 girls and when I made a post about what to do I got inspiration from others and came up with this that each girl will receive:
a bottle of hand lotion
stawberry scented kleenex
Post # 15
I generally prefer not to have my hair and makeup ‘done’ by someone else, unless the bride wants a particular hairstyle/look. And if the bride wants a particular hairstyle, she should be paying for the hair anyway, so it wouldn’t be a gift.
Hairstylists generally delude themselves that they can make curl stay in my hair if only they use the right product. Inevitably, it falls within 20 minutes, resulting in gross, product laden wimpy flat hair. No thanks, I’ll fix my own hair and it will look simple and elegant.
With makeup, what they do looks fine, but it’s not worth the money, so I’ll always prefer to just do my own.
If I’m not intending or wanting to have my hair and makeup professionally done, paying for it for me would be pretty worthless. If I saw professional hair/makeup as a nice but expensive ‘treat’ for myself, then the offer to pay for it would be valuable to me.
Post # 16
@Mez03: it is going to be expensive. And I’m hiring some really talented and well known ladies so they certainly charge a premium. But it’s in the budget to give each Bridesmaid or Best Man a nice gift so I thought this might be a good idea.
@Sephiroth: Naturally if someone didn’t want hair/makeup, I’d get them something else. I know my BMs, though…and I’m nearly positive they will. I’m splurging and booking a hair/makeup team that works with celebs when they’re in town, so I have no doubt they’ll do a great job on everyone!