(Closed) Which Would You Prefer at the Wedding Reception??

posted 4 years ago in Food
  • poll: Which would you rather have??

    Cocktail hour with canapes and open bar followed immediately by sit down 3 course menu

    30 minute open bar time followed immediately by sit down 4 course menu

  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I’m a nervous nibbler, so I’d rather have an hour with access to tiny pretzels than half an hour with nothing.

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

    Have the cocktail hour with food, not sure if its the norm for most people but those I know who drink prefer not to do so on an empty stomach. Even if you don’t need the full hour you could use some of that time to mingle with your guests. We’re planning to get most photos out of the way in 30-45 min then enjoy at least 20-30 min of cocktail hour.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee

    I am apparently a weirdo but assuming you actually have good food, I don’t want to putter around with finger food for an hour, especially if there are so few people. If you had a huge wedding that would make more sense to me, as then people could socialize more. But for 20, just get on with the meal!

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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Don’t start serving alcohol without food.

    We also got all of our pictures done before the ceremony. So we spent probably half an hour doing pictures of just us after the ceremony and then we joined our cocktail hour and mingled with our guests.

    Honestly, I think you will feel a little rushed with only 30 minutes after the ceremony. Give yourselves the hour so you can just enjoy that time right after the ceremony and not have to be worried about time.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I prefer the first option.  Your guests probably would not have eaten for a while since they were busing getting ready and going to your ceremony.  And I always think it’s better to serve cocktails with something to nibble on.  I don’t drink much and I hate doing so on an empty stomach.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Our friends had option #1, and honestly DH and I didn’t know toooo many other friends, so it was awkward for us to chat with each other and people we didn’t know for an hour. it was a relief to finally sit down to dinner. I would go with #2. 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I love appetizers more than a meal, so I’d rather canapes any day. 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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    kilikina87 :  Missed the part where you have 20 guests. I think 30 min would be fine. But with alcohol its not always a quantity issue, could be tolerance level. I’m not much of a drinker and when I do a couple sips of wine or champagne hits me pretty fast. Food would be appreciated. Could you skip the open bar for that 30 min and have canapes plus light non-alcoholic refreshments instead? On the other hand with only 20 people I think you can figure out what works best for your specific group.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee

    If you want to serve alcohol with something to nibble on but still have 4 courses, could you just do bar snacks (chips, nuts, olives, dips) rather than canapes? 

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee

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    kilikina87 :  I love the 30 min cocktail hour and 4-course meal idea. What a fun wedding dinner party! 30 min is a perfect amount of time to use the restroom, grab a glass of wine, and say hello to people.

    I don’t think you need food and agree that people are adults who can moderate themselves. In fact, I think the 30 min no-food gap is pretty normal. It’s what happens whenever you go out to eat a restaurant. The staff asks for everyone’s drink, then comes back for food orders. I’ve never found that hard or weird.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would do the canapes during cocktail hour, maybe only make it 45 minutes. People will want to mingle for a bit, congratulate you personally, etc.

    And if for any reason your schedule gets thrown off, you’ll have some wiggle room. My brother did the short no-food cocktail hour, and due to some photography issue at the venue it ended up being over an hour. Needless to say there were some drunk guests lol.

    And you know your guests best, but like my Father-In-Law wanted to chat up damn near every person for 10 minutes after our ceremony. I was like OMG man I know you’re excited but let’s get on with it! haha

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