Post # 1
Going to FSIL’s Sister’s wedding in a week and wanted to either get them something today when I’m off work or just go the check route.
They still have a good amount of stuff on their registry that we could purchase. Such as all the accessories for the bathroom, kitchen utensils. They already have a house so I’m not sure which way to go.
Would you rather have stuff off the registry or cash/check?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
We prefered to receive money because our registries gave us discounts afterwards which meant that the same money could go a little further however, since we don’t have a lot of money to spend on gifts at this point in our lives, I prefer to give gifts so that the cost of the item will not be immediately apparent, or go in on gifts with other people so that we can give something more than we could have given on our own.
Post # 4
If they already have a house, I’m sure they would appreciate the check more!
Post # 6
I know Target does that. Do you know if BB&B does, as well?
I just usually don’t give gift cards or money so it feels weird but I can get over it =) I’m the same way about the cost being obvious with gift giving.
Post # 7
When looking at the registry, I noticed all the pieces for the bathroom were available but the curtain was not on it. I think they already have the curtain but never bought the pieces. That’s what I was leaning towards.
Post # 8
If I already had a home, I might prefer a check. But for our wedding, as my husband and I hadn’t previously lived together, I preferred actual stuff. I think you can never really go wrong with a gift from the registry, though. 🙂 The bathroom stuff sounds like a good idea! They might not buy it for themselves if they haven’t already, so I bet they’d appreciate it as a gift.
Post # 9
I get feeling awkward about them knowing how much you spent but if you go BBB they know how much the stuff on the registry costs and they know you’re going to use one of those coupons that everyone gets in the mail
Post # 11
@Gemstone: That’s what I was thinking. The families are highly religious and I know they aren’t currently living together but were separate at school. I’ve bought new pieces for mine and SO’s apartment but won’t spend the money on the other stuff that ‘completes’ it ya know??
@LGenz: One coupon?? Oh no- print off one for each piece and run them as a separate transaction. Then I can buy them more stuff!
Post # 12
Cash is overwhelming winning though.
Post # 13
Just give them a check – if they really want those items they can then use the money to buy them.
Post # 14
My friend moved in with her husband before they were married. The things at their place were what he purchased before she moved in so she really appreciated getting the things off the registry that they both liked.
Post # 15
I was always under the impression that giving cash was “tacky”. I don’t know why. Maybe because of Seinfeld? haha. I would prefer a check, but money is money haha.
Post # 16
I always do a registry gift for the shower and cash/check for the wedding. I know that’s what I’m hoping for as my FH and I are leaving the Monday after our Saturday wedding for the honeymoon and not having to deal with tons of presents would be ideal! 🙂