Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Sunset Hills Country Club
For me, it has been pretty much smooth sailing, except trying to get in touch with the florist. We initially met with him in March because he books up quickly and our wedding is in September, but in June I started calling to try to make some small changes and to get the remaining balance after my parents had paid the majority. Well, I would call and he would be busy or with a client or delivering flowers, and I would always leave my name and number, but he wouldn’t call back. Finally, he called me back this past Monday and he answered all my questions, but right before we got off the phone he said, we normally don’t get back in touch with the brides until 30 days before the wedding. How was I supposed to know that!?
Other than that it’s been great planning ex wedding, the MOH sometimes disappears, but she’s always there when it matters. So, what caused you to completely stress out during your wedding planning process?
This topic was modified 3 years, 2 months ago by TiaMP.
Post # 2
TiaMP: Biggest thing is that my brothers GF threw a fit when I didn’t ask her to be a BM, she ignored me… still is. Said we were no longer friends and created drama within my family.
I obviously idn’t realize it was a big deal, so then I asked her to be in our wedding. She said No, LOL. I’m getting over it. I’ve had issues with my mom too, not being supportive, being passive agressive and what not.
We’re not having a formal sitdown because the venue doesn’t accommodate it, so we’re having an app/dessert reception. We’ve gotten a few snarky, ‘So, we’re not even getting a dinner at your wedding?’. Puullllleasseeeee, there’s going to be so much food it’s not even funny. Arrggg.
Weddings just bring out the best in people! Hahah.
Post # 3
Hmm my MOH doesn’t live where I live so really I get no help when making final decisions. The groom is supposed to build the website and I’m still waiting. Now that I read this I realize that it has actually been quite stressful, I just hadn’t thought about it lol
I had to compromise with the venue and give up perfect view for better price. The most supportive have been my mom and one of the bridesmaids because she is also planning her wedding so she gets it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Sunset Hills Country Club
MuseForever: my most helpful person has been my middle sister, she’s almost exactly 2 years older than me and has been married almost 5 years. She has been wonderful, but she has also been my best friend my whole life, and the only reason I didn’t ask her to be my MOH was because I didn’t want my oldest sister to feel left out.
Post # 5
Our biggest roadblock was when our first venue fell through about 8 months before the wedding. But everything happens for a reason and we found another one that we loved soooo much more and it was absolutely perfect.
Post # 6
winterwoodlandbride15: We had complaints about our reception, too.
In hindsight, definitely should have stuck to our guns!!
Post # 7
TiaMP: Aww that’s great that she is there for you. I have a friend who is really like an aunt who also has been terrific. I mostly feel that I can’t talk about the wedding with anyone. Whenever I approach MOH she is too busy, and I do understand that it is hard for someone who hasn’t been married. It is also a personality thing, I picked her because I love her not because she is the best at planning anything! lol
I have other friends who are better at that but aren’t my best friends…
Post # 8
GreenBayBee: We are… now. Lol. We almost switched up everything, then I had a good convo with my dad and he pretty much said, ‘screw them all! If they want to have a wedding their way let them go get married. This is about you and Joe (my FI) and I think you guys should have your wedding the way you want’. Sometimes my dad is pretty great. So we stuck to our original plan, and people are coming around… or I’ve stopped caring, haha, either way I’m happy! 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
TiaMP: Well, last Thursday we found out that our Landlady has to sell the house we live in because she got screwed over by her financial advisor and needs to release the equity in it. So we will have to move out when our contract ends on the 12th December. Less than 6 weeks after we get back from our honeymoon.
So we either move before the wedding, and are broke then, or only have 6 weeks to find somewhere when we get back.
Yeaaaaah that’s a stressor I could have done without. Also, I hate house-hunting. HATE IT.
Post # 10
winterwoodlandbride15: Good for you, girl! And, yay, dad!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
TiaMP: A few … but nothing that we couldn’t handle.
The biggest was probably with one of my bridesmaids … She had issues about the dress that was picked before even trying it on. Finally got it out that she was concerned about the cost of alterations. Then she was happy because I said I would pay for half. Then she ordered the dress on time, great – but then I found out she decided to order the dress two sizes two small and it obviously didn’t fit – she wound up telling me after I made her try it on that she ended up ordering a new dress in the correct size and it’s due to come in the end of this month! So … at least that’s sorted. It was stressing me out so much, though, because I knew it wasn’t going to fit and I hated how much pressure she put on herself. I chose a dress that’s figure flattering no matter if someone gains or loses weight. I don’t care if anyone changes their weight at all. I had a good heart-to-heart and I think after that she felt a lot better.
Then there is FMIL … She wanted to invite unspecified names and still wouldn’t tell what the names are after trying multiple times to get it out of her. FI finally said we are giving you a +1 and you are not getting any invites for friends unless you can tell us who it is you want invited (there is one of her friends who is a complete B- …). Things ended up being okay there after that. The only thing is she kept on going on about the rehearsal dinner to FI and it is supposed to be the groom’s family that takes care of it – after hearing nothing about it my mother offered to host so I ended up having to talk to my mom and I think that it’s going to be smoothed over.
I hope there are no other hiccups, but I think that everything is going to be okay.
Post # 12
My biggest stressor was my dress.
I found a dress the second time I went shopping. I was in love with it. I didn’t buy it that day because I wanted to be 100% sure. came back two days later and put it on again. I still loved it so I bought it! Paid for it in full that day because the store would give a 10% discount if you paid in full. Three days later I got a phone call explaining the dress (THE dress!) was discontinued! I cried! I told them I didn’t understand-that I already had paid for it. It turns out it had been discontinued in December (and I bought it in march). I flipped out.
it took me three months to get over my dress and finally be able to go shopping again!
Post # 13
FI and I having issues about kids at the wedding. I firmly don’t believe they belong, he just doesn’t want to cause drama… Chiavari chair company went out of business so we had to book another, no biggie. FMIL wanting all her family invited and involved (she is FI’s stepmother and they do not get along). My family is also paying 100% so I am bitter about her 3rd cousin NEEDING an invite… Just other random guest +1 drama that is annoying but solved. So nothing major.
Post # 14
theshannondee: so sorry, no WAY would I ask my mom to pay for FSMILs third cousin!! I think many times SMs are trying to prove they are equal to parents, and when they do it at others expense it is wrong. My fiance stood toe to toe. He told his DAD you and SM get X number of invites. Please get back to me with list.
Post # 15
I got laid off and haven’t found a new job yet… Fortunately my future mother-in-law is going to cover everything and we’ll pay her back when we can.
My venue coordinator isn’t that great at communication, so we’re having to rework the menu and so haven’t decided on the alcohol, etc, because she’s really bad at getting us the prices for things… The wedding is in two weeks.