Post # 1
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488 posts
Helper bee
Okay Bees… I know this is a non waiting issue… but I just wanted to gauge your opinon 🙂 (Plus it’s a nice diversion from ring talk, right? Hehe)
Do you have that one friend… that is full of DRAMA? I do. And as much as I love her and want to be there for her… it’s extremely hard.
Backstory: I am friends with her husband who she is now getting a divorce from and is bad mouthing to me…She left her kids behind with her mom and husband (yes her soon-to-be-ex is living with her mom) to move back to her home town. AND to top that off, she is now pregnant by a guy who is also married. I try to offer her advice, but she seems to insist on doing things on her own, which seem pretty destructive. I really don’t want to be wrapped up in this anymore, but we have been there for each other before, this just seems to be getting worse. I mean, do you “break-up” with friends?
Oh… and she owes me $500.
Let me have it bees!
Post # 3
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413 posts
Helper bee
@Hbomb84: I’d break up with her, absolutely (in my opinion). I’ve learned the hard way that I have no time for negative people or their drama in my life. I have my own crap to worry about (sorry, that’s harsh). I care about my friends, offer advice, and help out as much as I can. But if they don’t listen to others’ advice, and screw things up… That’s their problem.
I wouldn’t get dragged into it. Next thing you know you’ll be getting a call from a lawyer or something asking to be some sort of witness, lol. Try not to get involved.
Gwen
Post # 4
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488 posts
Helper bee
@GwenvonD: That’s what I was thinking… OMG and her boyfriend’s wife is crazy, and of course he hasn’t started divorce proceedings which she said he was going to do. Oh and her boyfriend got arrested for a DWI a few weeks ago, and this is like his 3rd one total. It makes my head spin thinking about all of the issues going on.
Post # 5
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2260 posts
Buzzing bee
Oh I definitely have a few. Basically now I am just entertained my their stories because I am no longer an active “friend” so to speak, but we still talk everyonce in a while. And I’m not tied up in the drama anymore.
It does sound like your friend has some issues though, maybe you can take a step back when she moves back to her hometown.
Post # 6
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591 posts
Busy bee
Friendship is a two way street. If you’re consistently giving more than you’re getting, walk girl! You’ll feel so much better.
Post # 7
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488 posts
Helper bee
@Koala Bear: Oh no, I’m in that hometown… I really can’t believe that she left her kids behind… that’s what got me.
Post # 8
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
Yikes…. I agree with some of the other comments – time to end that friendship!
I dont tend to be friends with ‘drama’ people. Life has enough ups and downs in it without people who seek them out!
Post # 9
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1932 posts
Buzzing bee
@Hbomb84: Goodness gracious! That wasn’t even the level of drama I expected when I read the title! I’ve had dramatic friends, but not like that!
I think you need to just confront her and basically tell her what you said – you can’t handle the drama, you’ve tried being honest with her and she just wants to do it herself and you don’t want any part of it and until she can mature and grow up, you don’t have time for that relationship.
She’ll probably be super mad, but you gotta do what you gotta do. That kind of drama is never worth it.
Post # 10
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488 posts
Helper bee
@miss-spunkin: I know right!!! Yeah I’m thinking I am going to lay low for awhile… it’s a mess for sure.
