(Closed) Whining – Our First "No Kids Invited" Complaint

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

This just sounds like an excuse. 14 is old enough to babysit the 10-year-old for an evening….

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Roll your eyes, send a message saying that they’ll be missed, and move on. Sometimes all you can do is say “Some people….”

One of my husband’s cousins missed the RSVP deadline, required 2 reminders to RSVP, and then sent the excuse that “it would be hard to get someone to watch their girls.” That’s right… not that they couldn’t get someone to babysit. It would just be hard. They literally told us going to our wedding wasn’t worth the effort lmao. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

as if a 10 year old and a 14 year old need a babysitter.. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Lol I stayed home a lot as a 10 year old much less a 14 year old. Just an excuse! 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

If this is someone your Fiance really wants there, I would an exception. Especially with kids that age, it’s not like they will cry through the ceremony. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

That’s so lame. It’s their loss in the end, they’re going to miss out on a major family event that people will be talking about at the holidays & possibly for years to come. Hope it was worth it.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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chigirl217bride :  Was this her formal rsvp or just a whining communication?

Are they from out of town? That is the only situation which might possibly cause some concern re leaving a 14 yr old in charge of a 10 yr old. Even then, I am quite sure the kids have friends with whom they could stay if the cousin offered to do an exchange with the other parents.

Then again, that could depend on the date in December of your wedding. Families may be reluctant to take other people’s children over the hoildays.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

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BookishBee :  Thats what I was thinking. 

 

She’s making excuses. Tell her sorry she won’t be there!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The cousin’s wife sounds whiny and manipulative. 

I wouldn’t make an exception for them, as it could alienate the people who actually did respect your wishes. Be strong! 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Maybe these kids aren’t trustworthy to leave home alone. I have heard of plenty of middle school aged kids abusing drugs and alcohol, throwing parties when parents aren’t around, and behaving recklessly and dangerously in general. My 15 year old niece isn’t left home alone because she has a tendency to self harm when she’s unsupervised. 

Obviously, the kids could be angels and the parents just don’t want to come to your wedding, but they might have a legit reason, that they haven’t disclosed to you. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 1984

I have to agree that the 14 year old can mind the 10 year old for an evening (assuming there are no issues with the kids that we are not aware of.) I also love the idea of asking if the kids can stay overnght at a friend’s house. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee

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chigirl217bride :  There’s no reason why a 14 year old cannot stay home for an evening unaccompanied (unless the child has a disability and/or requires constant care). 

If I were in your position, I’d tell the guests I am firm on the no children rule. They presumably have had months (if not weeks) in advance to arrange for childcare if they’re not comfortable leaving their kids alone.

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