(Closed) White flowers at Chinese wedding?

posted 9 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i’m not chinese but i am vietnamese my fiance is telling me that i cannot have an all white wedding cause i guess its the color for funerals??? something like that i’m still doin a majority of my wedding in white but i’m adding a touch of charcoal greys, and silvers and a touch of blush pink… have you talked to your fiance?? or maybe his mom and see what she thinks?? sorry i wasn’t much help…

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Hi,

I specialize in culture weddings…..for Chinese weddings when it comes to flowers and floral arrangements…it meant to be a symbol of happiness…joy…life and I believe fertility as well. Red in Chinese culture is very powerful..it also means deep and joyous, so if you incorporate that into the floral arrangements…it is important to them. As for white flowers, the only thing that is usually accepted in like the bouquets are like white roses..as long as they are tied together with red or other colored ribbons and silks so I’ve heard. But any other white flowers are considered to be symbols of death.

There are some popular flowers that are used at Chinese weddings….peonies(means renewed life), lotuses, daffodils, orchids which is the most popular flower used at the weddings because it symbols love and fertility in Chinese culture…I have seen them used alot as corsages for the mother of bride and groom.

But that is the basics for flowers and floral arrangements that you were asking about. I hope this doesn’t overwhelm you! :o) Hope this helps you out and feel free to contact me if you have any other questions or need suggestions! Good luck!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey

I think at the end of the day, it depends on whether his family would mind.  My mom was pretty adamant that there be no white flowers (though she was ok with ivories and creams), but she’s pretty traditional.  I was pretty adamant that there be no red flowers . . . so we compromised on a soft palette of blushes and purples.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey

Pretty much just to be contrary.  😉 I wanted to do a chinoiserie wedding without doing anything too classically Chinese.  I kept the reds for the decor for the tea ceremony.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would ask his mom (if applicable and if accessible) to see her input, she may not mind but maybe older relatives might?

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I am Chinese and having all white flowers for my ceremony and whites and pinks for my wedding.  Yes, white was traditionally used for funerals.  But, most Chinese now wear the white wedding dress for the ceremony and change into the red for the reception, so it’s perfectly acceptable to have white flowers, in my opinion.  Most Chinese weddings I have been to use the traditional Western white ceremony to start then end with a Chinese-style reception.  Depending on your ceremony, you may want to tell your officiant not to wear white and avoid white lanterns.  To me that looks too funeral.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with GaBGal that you should probably ask his parents’ opinions about this. My parents felt very strongly about not having white flowers.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with everyone above, you should talk to his family.  I am chinese and my fiancee is not and my parents have asked me specifically to not have white flowers in my hair or in my bouquet, but they were alright with *some* white flowers in all our arrangements and centerpieces.  I find it varies from every family, so you should definitely take the time to talk to them.

Post # 13
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Newbee

The traditional Chinese wedding features the color red, the more red, the more auspiciousness and blessings. You may have your own ideas about wearing white flowers or not. After all, it’s your wedding not anyone else’s. Hope you have a happy wedding and harmonious marriage.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It depends on how superstitious his side is.  I’m Chinese but my parents didn’t really care.  I had white Orchids but I made sure not to have too much white and included other colors such as red. I did made sure not to have white for the boutonnieres though.

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