(Closed) White formal dress as “wedding dress,” any regrets?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
142 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t think it will make a difference! If you’ve already found dresses you love, then that’s the important part; whether they’re officially a ‘wedding dress’ doesn’t seem important to me. You’re going to be wearing it at your wedding – therefore it’s a wedding dress! Besides, I like the ideal of doing something more you, more unique. 

My only question would be – do the pictures that you have cut out and saved look like the dresses you are trying on? If they do, great. If not – I wonder if you’re just psyching yourself out of going to a bridal salon? Maybe knowing that you’ve already found dresses you love will take all the pressure off and help with your nerves if you did go to a bridal store just to see.

Post # 4
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think formal dresses are a GREAT idea! They’re usually less expensive and can work well for certain types of weddings. At first I wanted an elaborate, traditional wedding gown but realized that wasn’t the best idea since we’re having a destination wedding. I actually ordered a formal dress from Nordstrom (great selection there, by the way). Even though the dress wasn’t all that flattering on ME, it was beautiful in its own right.

Post # 5
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I bought my nicole miller dress from ebay.  I neglected to tell my mother so she could have the mother of the bride wedding dress shopping experience-

  It was nice for her to experience it, but in all honesty- I could have done without it.  Maybe it was the bridal salons we went to, it could have been the busy season, but it was draining and I didn’t see a lot that I liked.  I guess it was nice because it really made me appreciate my simple nicole!  Even though you love a dress, you could still do the shopping for the experience. 



Post # 6
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think that looking and feeling beautiful in your gown is ALL that is important when choosing your wedding dress. I know that lots of brides are choosing white bridesmaids’ dresses or even non-white, funky, retro dresses for their wedding dresses these days, either to cut costs or to express their personal style. 

Besides, what makes a dress a "wedding dress"? Being made by a particular designer and sold in a particular store (usually for a huge markup)? Until Queen Victoria was married in white, women felt no pressure to wear a special "bridal gown." They just wore their very best gown for the wedding. 

In short, do what makes YOU feel right! If you want "the experience," ask some friends or family members to come shopping with you, and enjoy taking lots of pictures with no one telling you not to, knowing the price and designer of the gown up front, and being able to take it home that day. You can even go out for mimosas and brunch after to complete the experience. 🙂

I hope that helps! Good luck!

Post # 7
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I bought a bridesmaids dress for $160, including tax.  I know so many older women who got married in nice clothes, not a wedding dress at all.  FI’s grandmother borrowed a nice suit from her sister to wear at her wedding, she doesn’t regret a thing.

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