(Closed) White lies and why I believe in them

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Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Totally agree with it. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Sometimes? I’m a bit more honest with my family than the examples given, but if a friend got a terrible haircut I probably would tell them it looked better than it did.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Just_Squeeze:I tolerate white lies.

 

Example: You are over at a (new) friend’s house. The food is … bearable, but not that great.

“The food is delicious! Thank you so much for having us over for this wonderful meal.”

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

All for lying.

Wow gorgeous ring… (I hate it).

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I tolerate and use them. I had a really hard time during FH’s last deployment. He was gone for 11 months and I didn’t really see a point in telling him I was an absolute mess. There was nothing either of us could do about the situation and I basically had to suck it up. He knows now how bad I was during that time and it upsets him. I can’t imagine how it would have effected him while he was Afghanistan to know I was crying myself to sleep every other night.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Tolerate for sure!

I think that white lies are necessary to keep the peace in awkward situations. I’m all about being honest, but there are definite times when your less than positive opinion would be inappropriate. I think that if your negative opinion does not offer any sway other than a constructive one, then it’s really not necessary.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@JustLove:Amen. I lied about that a lot.

“How do you deal with him being away, doesn’t it just kill you?”

Me, lying off my a$*, “I keep myself busy, and he’ll be home soon enough, it’s not as bad as you think.” or even, “Surprisingly it’s going fine, I even get to talk to him on the phone sometimes.”

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@ellabee: Oh, I lie all the time like that to people.. Sometimes I’ll break down if I’m having a REALLY hard day, but most of the time I’m just like “it’ll be over soon, I’m fine, it really isn’t that bad..” I try to do the same with JJ, but sometimes it’s harder than others..

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think there is a big difference between telling a LIE, and not telling the whole truth.

I really want to avoid crossing that line with my future husband…

If he calls and asks what I’m doing, saying, “about to eat lunch” IS true! (he just doesn’t need to tease me about being on WB!) If I said, “I’ve been cleaning the house all morning.” well, that’s a lie, and I don’t want to go there.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Without them the “social contract” falls apart.  I have a friend who refuses to use them- and the rest of us have to clean up in her wake- hurt feelings, clarifications, and smoothing feathers.  I hope she grows out of it.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Without them the “social contract” falls apart.  I have a friend who refuses to use them- and the rest of us have to clean up in her wake- hurt feelings, clarifications, and smoothing feathers.  I hope she grows out of it.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

white lies all the way.  we are not vulcans, we should not be telling each other the cold hard truth all the time! 

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