(Closed) White or Ivory at wedding as a guest? Kate Middleton

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@lefeymw: I think it is fine.  It is in no way in competition with the bride.  I don’t think there is an actual rule about wearing white to a wedding, but many do not because it upsets some brides.

She is fine.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It looks more like a coat than a dress, so I’m sure it’s not competing with the bride at all.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

And remember, she`s not American. Wearing white to a wedding seems to be something only American brides are pretty much rabid about. 

Besides that, she had her MoH wear white at her own wedding…

Shes fine. Thats pretty much champagne. 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

She wore a pale gold brocade coat over a champagne gold dress.

                                                                   

We must also remember that clearly there are different traditions in other countries. Pippa wore a white dress as Kate`s attendant. That rarely happens here.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think she did anything wrong. It’s a light color, no where near white…it would be hard to mistake her for the bride. I wore a white dress with flowers on it to a wedding and no one said anything negative about it.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Regardless of what British royalty is doing, if you don’t mind being seen by at least some guests as rude for wearing white and possibly hurting the brides’ feelings on her wedding day, then you should totally wear white to someone else’s wedding.  Generally when someone seems so attached to the idea here, I think the either have an agenda or only own one dress.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@lefeymw: but the thing is, traditions and etiquette expectations are different by country, so you really can’t hold them to the same standard. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@lefeymw:  If someone is clueless that many brides are upset by guests wearing white, then their intent isn’t to insult or offend.  If you know that it bugs a lot of people and do it anyway, then it seems like at a minimum, you’re ambivalent about offending the bride.

“The good guest is almost invisible, enjoying him- or herself, communing with fellow guests, and, most of all, enjoying the generous hospitality of the hosts.”

— E. Post

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I don’t take my cues from Kate Middleton. I still will never wear that much white to a wedding. Period.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that’s soooo off-white that it’s not really white.

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