Post # 32
The white sapphire rings are beautiful!!! And I agree that people use terms like ‘oh your ring is so gorgeous!!” to equate with size. There is nothing ‘gorgeous’ about my setting, it’s a 6-prong high set solitaire, but since the diamond is so big, I get that comment all the time. No one has ever said “Oh, it’s so biiiig!!!” It’s always ‘gorgeous’.
Post # 33
I’m not even certain that the resale value is that great. You can likely get it appraised for a very high amount but I think the most you can get is whatever the Rapaport wholesale price is.
Post # 34
yeah, i just want to say that i didn’t want a diamond. i don’t see the point in having something so expensive that just sits on your finger and does nothing. to me spending the money on a house that my future husband and i can live in is much more important than having a diamond ring. like mightysapphire we also could have afforded a beautiful diamond, but that just wasn’t something that i wanted.
i initially was going to go with a colored stone, but decided on the white sapphire when i found it on etsy. i immediately knew it was the ring i wanted. i just couldn’t decide which colored stone i liked more, so this was the perfect neutral zone.
now, i don’t care what people say about the fact that i don’t have a diamond. i have had some weird comments, not necessarily rude, but weird. like people will say “wow look at that diamond”, i’ll be like, it’s a white sapphire and then they’ll be like, “oh, it’s, erm, nice”. if i didn’t tell them that it wasn’t a diamond, they would have no idea. i like to say something because i like that people know that there are other possibilities out there for stones.
my ring is conflict free and made with recycled metals, which i think is fantastic. it’s also almost as hard as a diamond (it’s a 9 on the mohs scale, diamonds are a 10).
in the end, it’s really your choice what stone you will be happy with. i will admit that when people started asking about my ring i wished that i had just gotten a diamond, because people can be a bit strange when they find out your ring is not a diamond. it’s just easier to be like everyone else. now, i wouldn’t change my ring for the world. for one, i love that it’s different and two i realized that this ring was the one that my fiance bought for me to tell me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. that’s definitely worth more to me than any diamond in the world.
Post # 35
I think, from my own experience, many people can’t get past the idea that if you don’t have a diamond it is because you can’t afford one. We could afford a diamond, but due to my studies of global politics, I don’t want one! The Kimberly Process isn’t fool-proof, Canadian diamonds are often strip-mined and the price of diamonds is tremendously inflated.
But when people see that you don’t have diamond, it’s like none of your opinions matter, they just think “Oh, she’s making up excuses for not having a diamond.”
That’s why I love Mossianite. It’s very similar to a diamond in make-up, so there is no quality issues. There is no difference to the naked eye. And I love being able to know for sure that no five year old in Africa mined the gem on my finger.
No insult to girls with real stones. But I love that we will save about $10,000, that we can use towards a house, and my ring will be beautiful and ethical.
Post # 36
I agree. Non-traditional stones are for me because they’re beautiful and I know where they came from (I go with lab created.) It’s funny, I went into Zales because a friend of mine works there. He was looking at my moissanite engagement ring, and his manager overheard us talking. The manager said, “Why didn’t you get a diamond?!” His tone was kind of accusatory– it was weird. I just said that I didn’t want a diamond and that I prefer moissanite– that my engagement ring search never involved a diamond. I didn’t want to get into the whole blood diamond thing. He seemed pretty pissed off. So rock on nontraditional ring ladies!
Post # 37
I *love* white sapphires!
here is a pic of one I LOVE!!! 🙂
Post # 38
I am wondering if I can get a ring made with white sapphires for the accent stones, I’ll have to look into etsy… I am just kinda “over” diamonds all together, and I hope the boy picks out a pretty gemstone for my big ole rock… I think I’d rather have something that matches my personality more than his salary lol Plus I can’t imagine what it would feel like if I lost something that cost about the same amount of money as my car! It makes my elbows hurt thinking about it.. ack!
Post # 39
This post had me thinking and I’ve been investigating white sapphire eternity bands ever since stumbling upon it yesterday! Thanks for the suggestions ladies!
Post # 40
@almostMrsG I thought the same thing! My future hubs already got me my lovely, amazing, diamond bands but I think for an anniversary I am gonna “hint” at a white sapphire ring!
Post # 41
P.S. Here’s a white sapphire halo I got at Zales that very same day for only 30 dollars! It’s lab grown and sterling silver, so it was a steal. It’s insanely icy white and throws light in the sun.
Here’s a question– I’m going overseas for a year and am thinking of a decoy ring. If I took the center stone of this ring and had it placed in a thin solitaire setting, do you think it would be too big or flashy? The center stone is almost 2 carats. I need advice on this; I don’t want it to attract theft. (I’ll be teaching most days and when on weekend trips I’ll wear my cheap claddagh ring instead.)
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Post # 42
I have a white sapphire e-ring and I love it. I had never heard of white sapphires before we got engaged, but I LOVE it. I can’t believe that I don’t have a pic of it on my work computer, but I will post one when I get home. It’s custom made, bezel set in white gold and I absolutely adore it. There is a picture of it on one of the “reader ring shots” posts on here somewhere.
It is sparkly and white, but not as rainbow-y as diamonds. I didn’t care at all about having a diamond, and made that very clear to my now-husband. I actually like this much better because it is a nice-sized stone, but doesn’t feel so “flashy” to me. I thought he would get a blue sapphire, but he chose white because he liked the more “traditional” look of it. It was a great decision – smart financial choice, I am happier not having a diamond, and I have a one-of a kind ring. Most people think it’s a diamond and I always correct them. I like having something a little unusual.
Now, I am looking at a yellow gold ring set with white sapphires on etsy as a future gift – I love this one and it would look great with my e-ring!
My wedding ring is also a custom band with small bezel-set white and blue sapphires.
Iggles – your ring is one of my favorites!!!
Post # 43
Just wanted to jump in and ask the ladies who have a sapphire ring or have researched: my in-laws gave me a blue sapphire ring as a present for the wedding but I haven’t worn it yet (saving it for special occasions) but do you guys know if I have to be careful with it? is it as strong as diamonds if I were to accidently bang it or do I have to be careful if I am washing dishes or anything like that? I wear my engagement ring all the time and have banged it around but no issues. I heard that some gems are more delicate than diamonds. I heard this about emeralds. I haven’t thought about sapphires until this thread came up. If anyone knows, taht would be great!
Post # 44
@strawberrybaby: I love blue sapphires! Diamonds are definitely harder than sapphires, I believe 4 times harder 🙂 And sapphires scratch as well
Post # 45
I just want to jump in and say that I love this thread. You ladies are so well-informed, well-spoken, and so respectful in all of the things you are saying here (despite the few semi-disrespectful comments). Additionally, all of the jewelry you have posted is absolutely beautiful. You classy, intelligent ladies are who makes Weddingbee such an awesome resource and community.
Post # 46
@StrawberryBaby: A sapphire is the next hardest gemstone from a diamond. My ring has been through some serious stuff, and it’s still just as pretty as when I first put it on (we’re talking car repairs, moving furniture, lawn work…I never take it off!). It’s not porous (like pearls and opals) so you don’t have to worry about acids, bases, or any cleaners ruining it. It’s pretty darn sturdy!
Also, for those ladies who are interested, here’s a great reference on sapphires!