(Closed) White to a wedding as a guest…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I would be so mad if that happened at my wedding.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I would not be a happy camper if someone wore white to my wedding. I’ve seen women wear sundresses that have a white background with a colored pattern and that’s fine… but if it’s more than 75% white, that’s a no-go. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mepayne:  This.

I know that no one is going to mistake anyone else for the bride, but it’s incredibly rude/disrespectful to wear white/ivory to a wedding. Future Mother-In-Law wants to wear the ivory dress that she wore to her older son’s wedding (10 years ago!!!), and I was floored that a) she wore it before, and b) she wanted to wear it again. Fiance doesn’t get why I don’t want her to wear it.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How on earth will they be able to tell who the bride is???  OMG

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Someone wore white to my friends wedding last december. Everyone still knows who the Bride is.. so it doesn’t matter. I think the guest who wore white just looked silly and maybe even had no idea she was committing a faux-pas.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t mind at all. I’d only worry about how others would view the guests. I actually would love for my mother to wear a white lace shrug to my wedding, but I’m worried others might look at her like what was she thinking. I’d only mind if someone wore a wedding dress to my wedding. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As long as they’re not wearing wedding gowns, who cares?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Agree with likewoah.  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

When I was a Maid/Matron of Honor, the grooms sister wore white. I didnt notice it until the photos after becasue we were all so caught up in the day. I never mentioned it to my friend (the bride) even as we went through the photos so idk if she was upset (or even noticed.)

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think my guests are mostly adults. They know how to dress themselves and they are more than allowed to wear whatever color they want.

Brides do not have the monopoly on any color.

I wouldn’t even notice if someone wore all white.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

it wouldnt have bothered me at my wedding. i barely remember my wedding (last week!!) as the nerves paralysed me hahaha

as a guest though, if i saw someone with a white dress i’d wonder ‘why did she pick that? trying to make a point or just liked it??’

i know that you dont mix up white dresses with the wedding dress…but still, all all the colours in the world, why pick white? makes you seem a bit odd in my opinion

edit – i did see a picture of a guest at a friends wedding, not in a wedding dress per se, but in a strapless floor length white maxi dress (no pattern). i found it a bit odd!!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think I’d be annoyed. Not so much because I feel I own the colour, but at the disrespect it implies. Everyone knows who wears the white dress at a wedding (and that it’s bad taste to wear it as a guest) and by wearing white they’re basically giving the bride the middle finger. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Would I be okay? Yes. Would I be happy about it? NO! But I would do my best to let it go, because at that point there’s nothing you can do about it. I do think it’s poor etiquette to wear a white dress to a wedding unless you’re the bride (or unless the bride specifically requests guests to wear white and/or lets everyone know she is wearing red or blue or whatever.)

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