Post # 1
…So my fiance and his groomsmen will all be wearing gray three-piece suits from Men’s Wearhouse for our spring wedding. They’ll also be wearing white shirts (from wherever they want), dark gray Chuck Taylors (Zappo’s), pink plaid socks (Express) and pink ties (Etsy). Since we have a large wedding party, the guys are getting a really good deal on their suits. My dad is getting a gray suit at the same time.
Anyway, while my dad was getting fitted for his suit today, the salesperson (or tailor, I’m not sure) at Men’s Wearhouse told him that the guys in the wedding party should definitely NOT wear white shirts if the bride’s dress is ivory. Why? Because then the bride’s dress will look dirty compared to them, and especially in pictures.
Well, my dress is ivory lace. Obviously, I don’t want our guests–and definitely not my fiance–to think I look dirty!
Has anyone else had groomsmen (and/or your fiance) wear white shirts while you wore an ivory gown? Was it really that big of a difference? Did you feel like you looked “dirty” next to them? Now I’m a little paranoid. I don’t want to give my fiance any hints about what color my dress is or what it looks like, but I also think that requesting that the guys all wear ivory shirts is weird. Personally, I like the crisp look of bright white and gray together. I don’t think that one person in an ivory dress–me–will look that foolish next to them. Please help!
Post # 3
@kalcote: We switched my Fiancee’s vest from Ivory to white to match my dress.
Here’s an example of what the ivory dress and white shirt look like: http://www-static.weddingbee.com/pics/43056/bouts.jpg
It’s up to you to decide whether or not it looks good.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
They told us the same thing. My dress is a little darker than ivory (Maggie Sottero Alabaster is the name of the color…not quite champagne). I liked dark gray tuxes and they said ivory would be the best shirt color. I didn’t like the ivory/gray combo (I thought the shirts looked dingy with gray) so we went with black tuxes and ivory shirts. Here’s to hoping everything looks as they should!
Post # 5
@kalcote: uh oh I didn’t think of that! I’m doing ivory lace as well. Tell me how it goes – I haven’t made it to men’s attire yet
Post # 6
I really wish they would stop telling people this. I wore ivory, the groomsmen wore white shirts and my dress did not look remotely dirty. Total nonsense.
It is, however, a great way to get 5+ guys to buy a new dress shirt when they probably have perfectly fine white ones at home.
Post # 7
They seem to tell everyone that buy it is no way true.
At no time will the groom’s shirt be right next to your dress.
Post # 8
@Beaukat – That photo link is REALLY helpful — thank you!
@LGenz – OK, phew! That’s what I was hoping someone would say… 🙂
@julies1949 – I think (and hope!) that the groom is next to me a lot on our wedding day but I think with his vest on it won’t be as big of a deal. Plus, it’s not like we’re going to be standing side-by-side like that farmer and his wife painting;we’ll be dancing and having fun with our guests!
If anyone has the nerve to say I look dirty then they shouldn’t be there, anyway. Thanks for the help, bees! 🙂
Post # 9
…I just found this picture and I don’t think it looks bad at all. Yay! 🙂
Post # 10
@LGenz: +1 on the shirt sale!
I’m pretty color sensitive and I don’t think the color contrast in the photo looks good at all, but that’s just me. To each their own. (I’m also one of the weirdos with a white dress, go figure)
Post # 11
Yes we were told the same if your dress is ivory the groomsmen need to wear ivory for that exact reason and even though it looks okay in this picture do you want to look OK in your wedding photos or do you want to look stunning!!! YOU are supposed to stand out not the groomsmen
Post # 12
@kalcote: I have found the same difficulty figuring things out…we are opting for white shirts…ivory vests…as our solution to the dilemma…which appears to coincide with fashion consultants
Post # 13
@kalcote: That seems odd to me. My fiance is having an ivory tuxedo custom made by Kleinfeld and they recommended that the custom tuxedo shirt being made be made with white fabric. When we saw the fabrics compared to one another in the shop they looked great to me. The only rational explanation I can think of for the person from Men’s Warehouse saying that is perhaps their ivory fabrics are more yellow in color?
Post # 14
Don’t listen to them. I totally agree – I wore a light ivory dress and Darling Husband wore a white shirt with an ivory vest, and his vest didn’t look dirty, so why would my dress? Haha, I just blabbered something that probably made no sense. But yes, I agree with everyone who said not to listen to MW’s salespeople. 🙂
Post # 15
I stressed over the same issue because people told me the same. I bought a light ivory dress and the Men’s Wearhouse ivory shirts are way too ivory that they looked really dingy. I live in MA and found another store called Bonardi’s that had a lighter and prettier ivory shirts and chose that store instead to rent the suits. Darling Husband wore a light ivory vest & tie to match. I was going to have the guys buy light ivory shirts –but that was way too complicated and hard to find. Perhaps there are other stores for you to consider that will have lighter ivory shirts?
When I look at pics of other people’s wedding, or been to other weddings, I have never noticed, or thought about the bride looking dingy in comparison. It is funny how these little details can drive you bananas when it is your own wedding. Here are the finished products: (the groomsmen wore light ivory shirts with dark purple vests).
Post # 16
There are varying shades of ivory, and I’ve found that the ivory shirts at Men’s Warehouse are far too yellow to look right against the ivory of many wedding dresses. What I did to make sure was once my seamstress had started hemming my dress, I had her give me a scrap of the fabric she had cut off and I took it back to the tux place so we could decide if it was closer to matching the white or ivory. In our case, we chose to stay with white and it looked way better with the fabric of my dress.