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Post # 32
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@Calybug:  She does have amazing boleros. The one I want is in one of her shops. I didn’t know though if they were her designs or knockoffs.

Seems like she is a legitimate designer. I have seen similar things on Etsy but I didn’t like the fabric or the stitching. I am sure there are others who have cheaper products, I just haven’t found any yet. Since I ordered my wedding bolero from her, I kept ordering from her for special occasions because I knew I liked the material the first time. It’s almost impossible to find anyone who will work in silk or taffeta.


Thank you so much for the links for the red dresses. Stunning detail in some of these!

Post # 33
1746 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Jovani makes some stunning colored gowns that are grand enough to be wedding dresses.


Post # 34
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you’re going to look for something that isn’t traditionally bridal, you probably shouldn’t look in the traditionally bridal places. 

As some of the PP suggested, you should look elsewhere.  I’m sure you will find what you’re looking for in other stores – department stores, prom dress stores, evening gown stores, etc. 

As for accessories, a lot of the Etsy designers can make whatever you want, you just have to ask.  Look for someone who has pieces that you like and would like to change something about (like only the color or something) and ask them if they can remake the item in another color. 

Personally, I cannot wait to wear all white on my wedding day, despite not wanting a traditional wedding in any other respect.

For the PP who wanted nude, I’ve seen Jovani nude dresses and the Bachelorette (Emily Maynard) wore a gorgeous nude dress (actually, all her dresses were gorgeous) the first night she met all the men.  I think you can find nude if you really try, but it’s probably not as popular as the blush wedding dresses are because Reese Witherspoon wore a blush wedding dress and I dont think any celeb has worn a nude one, only nude gowns.  And, nude is a really hard color to pull off for a lot of women, so I can imagine that not a lot of designers go the nude route. 

Good luck to everyone trying to find something untraditional!

Post # 35
432 posts
Helper bee

You can certainly find ball gowns in various colours. However, you may have to look in boutiques and shops that do not cater to brides and the wedding industry in general. The decline of formality in everyday-life means that fewer and fewer women have a need to wear formal dresses. How many people do you know who own a ball gown? Not an evening dress or a dinner dress, but a real ball gown with a full skirt intended for formal dancing? Probably not very many.

Being a bride is probably the only time most women will ever wear anything resembling a ball gown, and despite moving away from tradition in many regards, most girls and women still dream of a big white dress. A dear friend of mine owns a bridal boutique, and she gave me a £4,000 Alvina Valenta silk taffeta dress in light blue (new, tags attached) that had been sent as a sample and proved not popular at all. I had the train removed and wore it at a ball.

The wedding industry is based on the principles of supply and demand; 90 percent of women have visions of themselves in white/ivory/champagne, etc. so the industry will cater to that group. I am not opposed to coloured dresses, as the white wedding dress itself was an innovation in the 19th century, and thus a return to coloured dresses could indeed be seen as a return to older traditions.

I doubt that the industry will change, as there are many alternative venues where women who desire colourful dresses can shop — from boutiques, to seamstresses and on-line shops.

Here is a selection of gowns in different colours:


Post # 36
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am almost positive that I will not be wearing any version of white. And I’m sure that there will be an uproar. Fiance ispretty traditional and his family has this entitled sense of traditionalism – like it is their duty to uphold ‘normality.’ I like to throw them for loops. 🙂 I like white, but I just can’t like any bridal gowns. I always think: “That would look good in red or pink or blue.”

Post # 37
432 posts
Helper bee


You can correctly tell them that you are indeed returning to tradition. Ask them how they define tradition. I love playing that game with my husband’s American side of the family :-). You see, I am a Brit, and we personify sarcasm and snarkiness, plus I have over 1,000 years of history on my side. I am virtually unbeatable :-).

The white wedding dress is an invention of the 19th century, and a British one at that. Although dear old Vicky was of dubious German ancestry. Any historian worth her/his salt can tell you that before 1840 wedding dresses were typically not white. As a matter of fact, in the 18th and 19th centuries white was associated with light mourning.The most popular colour for brides was blue as it signified fidelity,

Even during the Victorian era women often got married in their best dress.



Post # 38
4099 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Calybug:  My wedding dress has color on it.. The train is purple along with a band around the front 🙂

Post # 39
91 posts
Worker bee

@Tangled:  I’ve always been partial to the look of a REALLY simple, more casual looking nude with an ivory/champagne lacy overlay. Basically resigned myself to the fact if/when I get married (wedding date is my best friends, I’m the MOH) that I’ll probably have to have it made. ;/ Everything I see now is so … white! And dramatic! And fussy! And too much. That’s fashion, I guess. My mothers was chamoagne and silk when she married my dad- SO gorgeous and complimentary. It was the style back then! Hold your breath THAT fashion trend makes a comback!

Post # 40
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@BackcountryBarbie:  I did some major alterations to mine and this is how it turned out:



Post # 42
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@BackcountryBarbie:  Thank you so much! I worried and stressed about it like crazy, but I was happy with the result in the end. 🙂

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