Post # 1
Ok, so my future sister in law (husbands, brothers wife) which is now my sister in law wore an ivory sequence dress to my wedding (her wedding rehearsal dinner dress may I add) that you could see half of her boobs because it was so low cut and opened. My mother in law has told me that she does not think it was a big deal and that she didn’t have anything fancy enough for my wedding. Oh, did I also mention my sister in law is a wedding planner and we do not get along. Am I wrong to feel that it was intentional? I want to see how many people say that she was wrong in wearing what she wore.
Post # 3
Maybe she did it to be a bitch, but I’d just let it go. Not worth the fight.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Did it look like a wedding dress? Did a single guest think she was the bride and not you?
I’m guessing no.
So don’t worry about it. Not worth it.
Post # 6
I’m usually in the “if it doesn’t look bridal and no one confused her with the bride, who cares?” camp, but from your take on the situation, it sounds intentional. In which case, it was a very move made by her in poor taste. I would still try as hard as I could to let it go though.
Post # 7
i understand why you’re upset but at this point what’s done is done. It’s not worth being upset still and overshadowing the wonderful memories of your wedding.
Post # 8
Sounds like she made an ass of herself. You can’t change it now, and if it was intentional – she wins if you stew. If it wasn’t – it only hurts you to stew.
Totally annoying but you gotta let it go.
Post # 9
I voted “no”. It’s just a color and I’m sure everyone knew who the bride was.
Post # 10
Agree with pp that this was in poor taste but definitely not worth you losing any of your well deserved sleep over.
I was watching some videos from a videographer we might use and I was surprised at how many women guests wear white/ivory to weddings.
I think as brides we are hypervigilant about these things.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Wow! It’s extremely wrong if she is also a wedding planner. And not that you’re asking, but I wouldn’t make a big deal of it; complaining to friends/family won’t get you anywhere.
Post # 13
I voted no.
In the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t a big deal.
Post # 14
You’re going to have a relationship with your SIL for a long time, so I think the best path here is to assume the best about her intentions and move on.
Post # 15
It probably was, but what’s done is done. Nothing you can change about it now. Let it go.
Post # 16
I agree with others that it depends if it looks ‘bridal’ or not really depends on whether it’s a bad move. Like my Gran showed me what she is wearing for our wedding the other day. White skirt and top combo with a pink and green jacket. Does it look bridal? Nope. And if anyone got confused between me and my 84 year old Grandma I’d be pretty upset, even though she looks great for her age. Either that or would find it hilarious my FI marrying my Grandma.
Although this sounds pretty nasty. Especially if she’s a wedding planner. You would think she’d know it’s a fairly common taboo. If she is frolicing about on your wedding day trying to upstage the bride I would think she’s an idiot more than anything so hopefully if she does wear that people will look at her disapprovingly rather than think she’s pretty.