Post # 1
I’m hiring a:
Photographer- found her on craigslist. She’s staying for the whole day. She set her price (a very low one compared to most photographers!), she’ll be pocketing all the money since she’s not from a company.
The Innkeeper- I’m getting married at a bed and breakfast and the innkeeper is making sure most things are being arranged. The total bill includes tips and gratuities, so does that mean I don’t tip her?
Officiant- I don’t have a church and she is someone I have just hired for the ceremony. I have never met her and I won’t until the rehearsal.
Florist- she works from home. Will be deliving the flowers to the inn herself (though she included a charge for that).
The musicians- traveling quite a distance but they took that into consideration when charging me (added an extra $100). Playing for the ceremony and the cocktail hour.
and I think that’s about it! Thanks for any help. Oh, and if I have to tip anyone, when should I do that? Can I wait until after the wedding and honeymoon and mail them a check with a thank you card? How much am I supposed to tip?
Post # 3
good question…I want to see what everyone says, too…sorry I’m no help
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Post # 4
My situation sounds a lot like your and I dont planning on tipping anyone, save my hairdresser. if gratuity/service fee was added into my total – no tip. If you are self employed (MU artist, photographer) – no tip. If there is a fee for additional services (set up and dleivery) – no tip. But thats just my take and is probably not what Emily Post would reccomend.
Post # 5
I am so glad you asked this! And hopefully an etiquette expert around here will see it.
I’m struggling with this too – my feeling is, with the amount we are paying these people we shouldn’t need to tip them! But I don’t want to do the wrong thing.
Post # 6
I *think* and I can very well be wrong. IF tips & gratuities are already included then you do not have to tip. However, if you felt anyone did an exceptional job or went out of their way I’m sure an extra couple bucks will be nice and greatly appreciated! Especially for people like the musicians and the innkeeper. And I would say if you were to tip definitely that day and not a check in the mail? That’s just my feeling on it.
Post # 7
I was struggling with this issue as well. I asked my wedding coordinator and this is what she said:
If the person or company has already added gratuity into your total, you do not need to tip on top of that.
For photo, DJ, florist you can tip but most don’t.
If and only if they do an amazing job the night of, then you tip. Otherwise, vendors do not expect it.
I hope this helps!!!
Post # 8
I’m not tipping ANYONE! Their prices are already inflated & some even include gratuity.
Post # 9
Photographer- Since she is pocketing the money, I would say no tip.
The Innkeeper- Since gratuities are included, no tip. You may want to ask her who the gratuities go to (just servers, bartenders, etc.) if you think she deserves a little extra personally, you could tip.
Officiant- I wouldn’t tip. Typically if you get married at a church or other organized group a donation is appropriate, but since you don’t have any relationship with her, than no.
Florist- I would consider tipping her if you are happy with the work and she makes an extra effort for you.
The musicians- I’m not sure on this one….
Someone recently put a post up about giving vendors a little "wedding survival kit"/thank you. You know, bottled water, energy drinks, gum, etc… this could be cute!