(Closed) Who am I supposed to tip?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My situation sounds a lot like your and I dont planning on tipping anyone, save my hairdresser.  if gratuity/service fee was added into my total – no tip.  If you are self employed (MU artist, photographer) – no tip.  If there is a fee for additional services (set up and dleivery) – no tip.  But thats just my take and is probably not what Emily Post would reccomend.

Post # 5
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I am so glad you asked this! And hopefully an etiquette expert around here will see it.

I’m struggling with this too – my feeling is, with the amount we are paying these people we shouldn’t need to tip them! But I don’t want to do the wrong thing.

Post # 6
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I *think* and I can very well be wrong. IF tips & gratuities are already included then you do not have to tip. However, if you felt anyone did an exceptional job or went out of their way I’m sure an extra couple bucks will be nice and greatly appreciated! Especially for people like the musicians and the innkeeper. And I would say if you were to tip definitely that day and not a check in the mail? That’s just my feeling on it.

Post # 7
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Hello Everyone,

I was struggling with this issue as well. I asked my wedding coordinator and this is what she said:

If the person or company has already added gratuity into your total, you do not need to tip on top of that.

For photo, DJ, florist you can tip but most don’t.

If and only if they do an amazing job the night of, then you tip. Otherwise, vendors do not expect it.

I hope this helps!!!


Post # 8
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not tipping ANYONE! Their prices are already inflated & some even include gratuity.

Post # 9
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Photographer- Since she is pocketing the money, I would say no tip.

The Innkeeper- Since gratuities are included, no tip. You may want to ask her who the gratuities go to (just servers, bartenders, etc.) if you think she deserves a little extra personally, you could tip.

Officiant- I wouldn’t tip. Typically if you get married at a church or other organized group a donation is appropriate, but since you don’t have any relationship with her, than no.

Florist- I would consider tipping her if you are happy with the work and she makes an extra effort for you.

The musicians- I’m not sure on this one….


Someone recently put a post up about giving vendors a little "wedding survival kit"/thank you. You know, bottled water, energy drinks, gum, etc… this could be cute!

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