(Closed) Who are these people?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ask them why!  Are they paying?

Post # 6
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3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you need to remind them that each person = $70. Ask them if the guy who renovated their kitchen is worth $140 to them.

Post # 7
Member
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Aquaria:  You may have to start making calls to these random people, “I’m so so sorry for the inconvenience, but my parents were misinformed about the seating capacity of our venue. By the time they asked if you’d like to come, we had already hit the maximum number of guests allowed at our wedding!” Or something along those lines. 

 

Tough part is probably going to be getting numbers for these people though, since they likely didn’t leave one on their response card.

 

And it’s definitely time to tell Mom and Dad that unless they want to be 3/4 of the cost instead of 1/2, they better cut it out!

Post # 8
Member
6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Aquaria:  Tell them that FI’s family has X amount and that’s the same amount that they have.  Once they reach that limit, tell them you don’t care what the right thing to do is anymore.  Also, tell them that they should be doing right by YOU, their DAUGHTER, and how YOU don’t want some random strangers at your WEDDING!

Post # 9
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4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh, that’s annoying. We had a requirement that we had to know and keep in touch with every person on our guest list (except for people’s +1s). We aren’t inviting super distant relatives that we’ve only met once or twice in our entire lives or people that are friends of friends of my parents. We’re having a small wedding though so we had to really narrow it and this was an easy way to do first round eliminations.

 

$70 a head is a lot for someone who isn’t even a friend to you or your family. I’d just remind them of the costs and say that its unreasonable.

 

Post # 10
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would tell them it’s not possible. If they continue to invite people you will have to uninvite them. Talk about embarrassing! 

Post # 11
Member
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This doesnt help, but I cant help comment, HOW ANNOYING!

Post # 12
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would put my foot down. If you don’t personally know the person and want them there, they shouldn’t be there.

Or, if they insist, ask them for the $70 per person. That should shut them up.

 

Post # 13
Member
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Aquaria:  Simply say, “I would rather reserve my funds for people I know and/or am close to. I understand that you would like to invite these people, so I hope you understand that you would need to pay for them in full”

Post # 14
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314 posts
Helper bee

Lol this is kinda hilarious Lol why would they do fhat??? Send a rsvp response back and uninvite everyone who you didnt invite. This is yours and FI’s wedding. Not theirs.

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