(Closed) Who are you asking to be your ushers?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Who are you asking to serve as your ushers?
    Your own brother(s) : (18 votes)
    19 %
    FI's brother(s) : (8 votes)
    9 %
    Other relative (cousin, etc) : (19 votes)
    20 %
    Friend(s) of the bride : (7 votes)
    8 %
    Friend(s) of the groom : (20 votes)
    22 %
    We aren't having ushers. : (12 votes)
    13 %
    Other? Who will it be? : (9 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Im having my two older brothers as they are not in the wedding party. They dont talk to each other tho as they had a rift. But they were polite enough at my brothers wedding on the weekend, this is when i considered having them as ushers. πŸ™‚ or I was going to include one to be a witness in signing of the documents instead of my Maid/Matron of Honor doing it. That way, hes involved πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Our plan is to ask two more male friends who would be groomsmen if we were having a larger wedding party. They also happen to be brothers (and the sons of our officiant–figure it out yet? πŸ˜‰ and thus we figured they either both needed to be included or neither one, and this was a good way to do that without expanding the “actual” wedding party. They also know all the groomsmen and will have a fun time hanging out with them! We hope to use them to of course seat people, but also to orchestrate the “flip” from ceremony to reception (moving the chairs and bringing in the cocktail tables that will go where the ceremony chairs were).

    With that said, I think they could be any combination of male friends or family. I think a couple of cousins is a great idea!

    Post # 6
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think it also could definitely be an opportunity to ask some of your friends. At the same time, I don’t think it matters if you’re close to the cousins or not…I think most family members are honored to help in any way that they can. And you definitely want people that you know are going to be able to make it.

    Post # 7
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    3252 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Fiance two younger brothers

    Post # 8
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We are having FI’s brother, FI’s brother-in-law, my brother, and 2 of my cousins. If we have a 6th since I have 6 bridesmaids then he is going to ask one of his good friends.

    Post # 9
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    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    we are having 3 of FI’s friends be ushers..these guys would have been groomsmen otherwise but i wanted a small bridal party.

    Post # 10
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Our groomsmen will be our ushers. His brother will help to usher only and my brother will walk my mom down the aisle. That’s it.

    Post # 11
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I feel like an idiot asking this question, but what is the difference between groomsmen and ushers? Don’t the groomsmen user tha guests in?

    Post # 12
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    2532 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I always thought that one of the responsibilities of the groomsmen was to also serve as ushers. I imagine we will just have 2 of our groomsmen (who are not the best man) do the ushering.

    Post # 13
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    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My FI’s cousin is one usher. I Am still trying to figure out another one.

    Post # 14
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    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Am I wrong in thinking that the groomsmen (other than the best man) can be used as ushers?  Almost all the weddings that I have been to over the years, that’s what people have done. 

    Post # 15
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    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    i’m sure the groomsmen can be ushers. i’ve never seen this in a wedding but you can do whatever you want πŸ™‚

    The weddings i have seen, and how our wedding will be, is the groomsmen will be in the front of the church, like by the altar (but in a room, not seen), meanwhile guests are arriving and the 3 ushers will be at the entrance of the church, taking guests to their seats. Just before the start of the ceremony my Fiance and his groomsmen will walk out to the altar where they wait for the processional to begin…my bridesmaids will walk alone down the aisle and me with my dad.

    Post # 16
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @krissybee- Thanks for the clarification! For my wedding the groomsmen will arrive an hour early and will escort the guests to their seats. Only the groom and Bridesmaid or Best Man will be at the alter.

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