Who are you showing your dress to before 'the big day'?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
2333 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Haha, I feel you! But I say, if you he wasn’t there when you bought it, just don’t show him! I showed my mom, sister, and people who weren’t coming to the wedding but wanted to see it. My best friend was there when I bought it. I mean, the people who weren’t coming and saw the dress were people I’m close to, not just random people haha.

I don’t know when you’ll stop staring at your dress…for me, I would be obsessed for a day or two, move on to other things and then a few days later start obsessing again. Eventually I got tired of looking at the same handful of pics so I wouldn’t obsess for a couple months at a time. Then…alterations happened…and the obsession was back haha!

Post # 3
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

LoveMyBrit:  I showed my girls, moms and one aunt my dress. However it was on the hanger since the sample size was wayy too small. <br /><br />

Once my dress comes in I plan on only having my Mom, FMIL and MOHs see the dress. Also because I know I won’t be able to wait for my mom to get in town and everyone is out of state, I’ll probably bring a local friend with me once it comes in. 

Also fun fact I mistakenly almost showed my FI the stock photo of my dress! Thankfully he freaked out more than I did! I kept my coo land just covered my phone with my hand. He spazzed and asked if that was my dress. He claims all he saw was a white dress lol

Post # 4
3045 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

I show everyone who asks about it! haha I don’t really care if he sees it or not… but I’m guessing i’d get a backlash from family if they knew he saw it so i’m not showing im. 

Post # 5
3914 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

LoveMyBrit:  My sisters and mom were there when I bought it. Besides that, I shared it with the rest of my bridesmaids and close family and friends. I’m not concerned about it getting back to FI because even if someone described it, he’d still have NO idea about what to visualize. I did have to make a point to tell his mother not to show him.

Honestly, even if you DID show your FI a picture of it, I highly doubt he’d remember clearly enough on the big day.

Post # 6
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Only 2 people (and a half lol) have seen my dress. I want everyone to oooh and ahhh. lol

Post # 7
2343 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’ve shown pictures to my best friends and some female family members. So far my mom, MOH, FMIL, and FSIL are the only ones who have seen it in real life. I don’t want to show anyone else though, because like you said, I want them to be surprised!

Post # 8
4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

LoveMyBrit:  When I went shopping for my dress my mom, FMIL, aunt, MOH, and BM were there.  When I got my dress FSIL went with me to pick it up.  I probably showed my co-worker just because I would stare at it a lot at work lol.  My mom showed my dad which I wasn’t thrilled about….  My seamstress obviously and I showed my photographer when she asked.

Post # 9
1330 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

LoveMyBrit:  I showed prettymuch anyone who asks, but not my fiance. He doesn’t ask or want to know. 

Post # 10
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m not particularly traditional about these things, so I’ll probably end up showing my fiance.  I was going to make him take me dress shopping (and he was totally up for it) since my MOH is an out-of-towner, but then I discovered one of my local friends is also getting married soon so we’re going shopping together.  I’ll probably show my close friends/family if they ask.  I figure they’ll still be surprised/impressed when they see me with the full hair and makeup experience, so why not show off my gorgeous dress?

Post # 11
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’ve shown anyone who asked, lol. Including my fiancee, but that’s me, everyone is different 

Post # 12
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I showed only my mother and my MIL and FIL (because my MIL was helping to alter the dress). I had a small wedding, so I wanted it to be a surprise for people who might in a larger wedding be surprised. My dress was also nontraditional, so it was really important to me to keep that a secret.

Post # 13
1339 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The only people who’ve seen my dress in person are my mom and grandma. My MOH has seen a picture of me in it. Technically lots of people have seen it though because it was my mom’s wedding dress, but I’m not showing anyone else what it looks like with me wearing it 

Post # 14
999 posts
Busy bee

I will show anyone who wants to see it…with the exception of my FI. I only have one person in my city that will be in the wedding and she came with me to buy it, but I’ve sent pictures to my mom, his mom, my sister, and the other bridesmaids. I even showed my boss at work because she asked when I said I’d already bought one.

As far as telling the FI…it’s practically turned into a game now. He doesn’t want to see and I don’t want to show him, so we’re competing to come up with the most ridiculous descriptions of the dress. We’ve got a dry-erase board in the kitchen with “WE’RE GETTING MARRIED IN _(296 at this point)___DAYS!” on it and a picture of a bride & groom. Every day or two one of us will use dry-erase markers to draw on ridiculous wedding outfits….right now, it’s a picture of a groom in a kilt and sleeveless tuxedo t-shirt and a bride in a hot pink ballgown so poofy it takes up 1/2 the board.

Post # 15
7749 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I bought dresses online to try on and returned the ones that didn’t work out. Before I returned them, I had a little reveal party with my friends, so they have seen the dress. FI wants the dress to be a surprise, so he’s not looking. I’m reluctant to show the dress to my mom because she will likely criticize it and give other suggestions. 

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