Post # 1
Up until now I’ve been planning on doing a head table with bridal party and their spouses. Our big thing is we don’t want to split dates up from each other. However there are a few significant others we aren’t huge fans of (one abusive terrible human being, one self absorbed difficult personality, etc) so it feels a bit weird to sit with them on our wedding night. Now I’m wondering if we should sit with our parents, but they are both divorced with spouses so there could be a bit of awkward tension. So also contemplating a sweetheart table. What are you doing?
Post # 2
We did a sweetheart table. Then everyone was happy to sit with their own dates and we had a break from being the center of attention
Post # 4
We are doing a sweetheart table. Our wedding party will be at a table near us. And each of our parents will have have their own table (with whatever guests they choose to have sit with them).
Post # 5
Sweetheart table! Making a head table would have been way too complicated, in addition to the fact that we only had 31 adult guesets and a head table would have had 14 of them…
Post # 6
We’re doing a head table with our bridal party and their dates. My Maid/Matron of Honor and one of the groomsmen are dating as is another bridesmaid and another groomsman, so it was really just 2 extra SO’s (one of whom is also our MC) who weren’t already in the bridal party. We also get along well with our bridal party and their SO’s, so it just seemed the best option for us.
Post # 7
Planning on doing a sweetheart table. I don’t want it to seem like we’re playing favorites and our immediate families are so large, they wouldn’t all fit at one table.
Post # 8
Our tables were mostly tables of 8. Our table was Me & DH, Maid/Matron of Honor & Her husband, Best Man & Wife, flower girls (twin daughters of MOH&Husband) The flower girls were taken back to hotel right after eating so by the time for dances/speeches their seats were vacant. I really didn’t want to be a sweetheart table with just my DH and miss the fun party aspect, but I didn’t want to try and squeeze the whole Bridal party at a table. Also didn’t want to sit with parents for many reasons one good one being they needed to see their families/friends as these things are mini fam reunions in a way. Mom was better off with her aunts/cousins/sibling/etc and DH parents had their own cousins/bffs/OOT relatives. It just made sense and I really wanted to sit with our closest friends.
Post # 9
It sounds like a sweet heart table might be the best thing for your reception. we’re not having a bridal party so we will be sitting with our parents and siblings.
Post # 10
We did a sweetheart table.
Post # 11
At my first wedding we did a head table but the entire wedding party was not seated there. Basically it was us, my Maid/Matron of Honor and her husband, the best man (husband’s brother), and one or two groomsmen who were my husband’s close friends. None of those guys had dates, as I recall. We also invited a very dear friend of my husband who traveled from out of town, to sit with us, and his wife as well. The rest of our wedding party were my brothers and sisters, and they and their dates all sat at another one or two tables together (this arrangement had been discussed with them before and they were happy with it).
OP, sweetheart table may be the best option for you. But if you still like the idea of a head table, I really don’t think the dates/SO’s you don’t like are going to affect you much. You are not going to sit at your table all evening; you’ll be far too busy with your wedding festivities and other guests. And during the amount of time you do spend at your table for eating and listening to speeches, I doubt you’re even going to interact directly with these people much.
Post # 12
I plan to do a sweetheart table. The wedding party are the people closest to you but they may not necessarily be closest to each other. So I feel like for reception I want to put them with the people they’ll be most comfortable with.
Post # 13
We’re sitting with immediate family (it’s a small group – three on his side and four on mine). The exception to the immediate family is my sister and her kids, but that’s only because she asked to sit at another table – we could have still added them.
In your case a sweetheart table is probably the easiest, most neutral solution. Splitting up dates is horrible. I went to a wedding once where I was in the bridal party and sat at the head table, but these were old friends from my hometown and my fiance hardly knew anyone except the people in the bridal party. He ended up sitting with strangers and it was super awkward/boring for him.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
We’re having a head table, but the Bridal Party won’t be on it.
It’ll be us, our parents and our Nans.
Bridal Party will be sat with their partners at their respective tables 🙂
It sounds like a Sweetheart table might be best for you though, so go for it 🙂
Post # 15
Thanks for the responses! I was thinking we could also do a table with just us, my 2 MOHs/their husbands and the best man and his girlfriend. Then the siblings in the bridal party can sit with their families and other bridal party members can sit with friends. Would that be weird?
I also think to avoid awkwardness, instead of one “parents” table I can split all the parents up and sit them with their families.