(Closed) Who are you tipping?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should I be tipping? vote for all that apply
    photographer : (12 votes)
    26 %
    dj : (16 votes)
    35 %
    venue coordinator : (10 votes)
    22 %
    officiant : (8 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    That’s a good question! I would have tipped the DJ and photographers. Is this not common? Our officiant told us that he expects a tip. Do the flower people get a tip when they deliver?

    Post # 4
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    14405 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I want to know this too.  I think i heard you tip if they work for a company, but not people like photographers who are self employed. 

    (Also, you might want to change your poll type so you can select more than one choice)

    Post # 6
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    231 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m interested in this too.  I think with the officiant, it depends on their position.  Ours is a judge, and is limited as to how much he can accept, including tip.  His fee is the maximum amount allowable ($100), and he can’t accept a tip in addition to this. 

    I was planning to tip the photographer (who is the owner of the studio), the ceremony musician, the on – location stylists.  I’m not sure about some other people (the delivery people for the cake, the attendant for our photo booth, the banquet manager at our reception venue…)

    Post # 7
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    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We’ll be tipping our DJ/Guitar Player, our Photographer (though this is a friend and will likely be in the form of us paying for a hotel room for them), and I will absolutely be tipping the Banquet Manager and staff.

    I am a venue coordinator- and tipping is always much appreciated.  I understand it’s expensive – especially since many venues have a service charge tacked on to everything that is supposed to cover server gratuities. 

    I know from working in this industry for years that while every place does it a little differently, very often those people see very, very little from your service charge.  So while your coordinator will spend countless hours with you, they will directly receive very little monetarily from yourevents.

    Yes, they get an hourly or salaried wage, but it’s always too low for the service they provide.

    Our officiant is a close friend who we will find a way to thank later, my hair/makeup is my fiance’s sister, and the florist is charging me an arm and a leg 😉  But I will try to save some extra cash to tip that staff as well.

    Thank you for asking – it’s a sticky thing that’s never mentioned in traditional wedding books and magazines.  But it’s always appreciated!!!

     

    Post # 8
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    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @Ellabellaxo: He is the deacon at our Catholic church. When we met with him, he told us the total we need to pay for the church and the musicians. Then he said we can give the altar boy and him what we find appropriate.

    Post # 9
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    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    DJ:  We did tip

    Officient:  We did not.  He is not affiliated with a church and basically works for himself.  He did not attend the rehearsal, just the ceremony, and his fee was pretty steep for the area ($500).  With a more traditional situation, I would have tipped.

    Photographer:  We did not tip.  It was a husband/wife team that do own their business.  We did get them a nice bottle of wine as a follow up thank you.

    Florist:  We did not tip them, because we didn’t even see them.  They were in and out and we were not around at the the time.  Their delivery van broke down and the flowers were delivered later than planned, so we were all out taking photos at the time.  (They had to run my bouquet out to me so I could have it for first look photos!)

    Cake:  It was delivered well before we got there.  We didn’t see them.  (And my cake sucked….it was crooked!)

    Quartet:  I honestly can’t remember.  I know we had an envelope for them but they were also gone so quickly that I’m not sure if my dad was able to catch them after the ceremony.

    Post # 11
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    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ll be tipping my florist. She’s giving me delivery (which is usually 50$) and 4 additional bouts (10$ each) for only an extra 36$. She also doesn’t do her own deliveries. 

    DJ won’t be tipping as they’re family, but I’m trying to think of a nice gift,

    Officiant…eh. Haven’t actually met him yet. If I really feel that he deserves it, I will.

    Photographer & cake are owners of their own business. I won’t be tipping either.

    OH! I will probably be tipping the shuttle service driver, if they give good service. In my world, you get tipped based on customer service, not merely performing one (that’s what I paid you for, not tipped!).

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I didn’t tip any of those listed. I paid enough for their services and I saw no need. In fact, I only tipped my hairdresser and that’s only because he did my hair as a wedding gift.

    Post # 13
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    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn

    @AmeliaBedelia: That is an extremely helpful link. Thank you! 🙂

    Post # 14
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    762 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am only tipping our caterer (already included in price), my hairdresser. All of my other vendors are self employed so I won’t be giving them a tip

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I really like Real Simple‘s guidelines for tipping.

    We tipped our photographer (owns her business), DJ (works for someone) and the caterers to be split among the staff. hair & makeup team, limo driver (even though it was UNINTENTIONAL. she lied her way into a tip).

    Officiant was a friend so we are sending her a gift instead.DIYed flowers so no tipping necessary.

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