(Closed) Who attends the rehearsal dinner?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Our rehearsal dinner was immediate family, grandparents and the wedding party + their dates. We didn’t invite out-of-town guests. I don’t think any of those guests would have even expected to have been invited. Plus, many of them didn’t arrive until the next day.

So yes, you can keep it to wedding party and family. 🙂

Post # 4
5089 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You absolutely do not have to invite all out of town guests.  As I said in a different thread, it is traditionally just for immediate family and the bridal party to thank them for all their support, etc.  The rest of the guests don’t come to the rehearsal – no need for them to come to the rehearsal dinner, either.

I’ve been to a few weddings where this is done, but most haven’t. I didn’t – that would have been my entire guest list.

Post # 5
2774 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It’s fine to limit the rehearsal dinner to immediate family and wedding party.

Had we included all out-of-towners in our Rehearsal Dinner, it would have been 95% of our guest list.  Nothing wrong with wanting an intimate gathering!

Post # 7
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You definitely don’t have to invite all of your out of town guests, but you might include some who.. basically wouldn’t know what to do with themslelves that night otherwise. For me, this includes a few older/elderly people: a great aunt, a family friend who is neighbors with the grandparents.. most out of towners will not expect to be invited.

Post # 8
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think ours will just be immediate family and wedding party (and their SOs, but most of them don’t have SOs so I doubt they’ll want to try to find dates since it will probably be an intimate gathering at FMILs house).

Post # 9
2413 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are having a rehearsal dinner with just our parents, grandparents and bridal party. That is it!

After our rehearsal dinner, Fiance parents are throwing a welcome cocktail reception at the same venue as our rehearsal, but they are viewing this as a family reunion as well (since all siblings live in different states) so they don’t mind the additional costs.

Post # 10
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’re having a semi-destination wedding at a resort which is a two hour ferry ride away from our house so we have invited everyone who plans on being on the island the night before. That said, i don’t think people expected to be invited so it is just an extra bonus for everyone. We’re just having a bbq, bottling our own wine and buying a keg of beer to cut down on costs.

Post # 11
2540 posts
Sugar bee

We’re inviting our bridsmaids and groomsmen, their spouses, and our immediate families.

Post # 12
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We are having all out of town family invited, as our rehersal dinner will be Thanksgiving dinner. We are getting married on Black friday and wanted to have an opporunity to bring the families together since we see eachother all together maybe once a year. I thought we would have a fight on our hands, but supprisingly everyone is super excited (or hasn’t said anything). That being said Future Mother-In-Law and I are cooking all of the food and going to rent out a little place to fit everyone. If we were doing something at like a resturaunt we would only be doing bridal party and grandparents.

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