Mr TTR & I are Older Encores…
So we talked openly when we were first beginning to Date about a wide variety of topics to figure out how compatible we were (comparing values, beliefs, etc).
I asked him if he was open to Marriage again… lol, even tho I was clearly the one who was more gun-shy at the time.
He said he hadn’t taken it off the table completely in his life… He liked to believe that a good Marriage was still a possiblity… BUT it would take a “very special woman” to make that happen.
Lol, as I was still licking my own wounds about my Divorce, I remember I said “Same here, a VERY special guy”
And so it was… we dated in total for another 6 years before it came up in a convo again… before that it just wasn’t something that either of us felt was important / needed for us.
It was I who brought it up when we got to around our 6th Date-iversary… I told him I was now ready to make that sort of commitment again.
He was thrilled… cause he had been there awhile, but knew I wasn’t, so he didn’t broach the subject at all (gave me my space).
Lol, we exchanged our Updated LIFE PLANS and TIMELINE… and I said I’d like to be married in about a years time (before the end of 2012). He agreed.
I also told him that I wanted to be involved in The Ring process…
Then he told me to leave it up to him… as a guy he wanted to do it in his own way / time.
I never was sure if I was a “Waiting Woman” for a Proposal or to go Ring Shopping… but as I trusted him 100% I let it be, and never really brought it up again. I knew it was in the works, I just didn’t know when.
Lol, he did take his time… it was 4 months later when he Proposed when we were on vacation.
Mind you, it quickly became apparent that he’d used the time well… because he had thought a lot about the Wedding and the details that he wanted to incorporate… for example he knew he wanted to Elope just the 2 of us to a Destination Wedding… to this very spot where he had Proposed (hence the wait).
No Regrets. He is indeed that VERY Special Man that I had hoped for almost a decade ago.