(Closed) Who brought up marriage first in your relationship?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who brought up marriage first in your relationship?
    I did : (37 votes)
    31 %
    SO did : (74 votes)
    62 %
    Other (explain below) : (8 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    He did.  Smile

    I must say that made me very happy.

    He mentioned it within a few weeks of dating.  We had dressed up to go out and when we got there and ordered drinks he slid my bar stool to face him and said, “So, how do you like the sound of __my name__  __his last name__ ?”  It was out of the blue!  But I kept cool, surprisingly (hadn’t had my first drink yet, lol) and said back, very calmly and looking him straight in the eye, “It sounds perfect; I can’t wait for that to be my name.” 

    Then he tortured me a few more months.  And then suggested we go ring shopping.  I said, “REALLY??????”  We looked at a few rings together so he would know what I liked.  Then he went by himself and bought the one I liked the best and after it was sized to fit me he brought it home, got down on one knee and proposed.  πŸ™‚  At the dining room table.  πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
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    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I first brought it up, after about 1.5 years of dating… it was like a “what if” sort of conversation, like what it would be like, what kind of house we would have, etc. My Darling Husband was very receptive and seemed to be thinking the same thing. He proposed about 8 months after that.

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I honestly have no clue who brought it up.  It apparently felt so natural and organic at the time that whenever if first happened doesn’t stick out in my mind in any way.

    Post # 6
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    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I can’t remember-we both knew we were it for the other one-the first conversation doesn’t stick out in my mind

    Post # 7
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    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    The only time we discussed marriage was when I learned in the beginning of our relationship that Fiance was against marriage.  He wanted nothing to do with it.  I accepted that and moved on.  The next time it was brought up is when he proposed to me 20 months ago.  =)

    Post # 8
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    1294 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It actually only took WEEKS.. (we knew eachother through highschool and through university first) and he brought up seeing himself with me forever

    Post # 9
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    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    he did.  Surprised the heck out of me.  He was a lifelong confirmed bachelor and I was fine with that. 

    We were at President Tuxedo – he was getting measured for a tux for his friend’s wedding.  I joked that I liked the zoot suit style better.

    He said “oh, we can get that one for our wedding”.  I didn’t know what to say! LOL

    Post # 10
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    1079 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It would have happened so long ago that I can’t honestly remember.  I’m thinking really hard but I really don’t know.  I know that we talked about doing things together in the future long before we actually talked about getting married.  It really could have been either of us that brought it up first though I think it might have been me?

    Post # 11
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    2006 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I can’t really remember… I want to say it was me, after he said something along the lines of wanting to spend our lives together.  Who knows.  It happened. πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
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    2822 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My Fiance did & it was awesome! πŸ™‚

    Post # 13
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    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    He did… we were talking about highschool dances, I commented how my senior promdress was a huge, poofy, expensive, ballgown, and that I justified the purchase because I didn’t think I would ever get the chance to wear something like that again (i.e. didn’t think I’d marry). he said something like “well maybe someday you can wear a wedding dress with me”

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Lol, he did! I begged him not to propose to me πŸ™‚ Glad he did though! 

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t even know.. lol I guess it was so mutual that we kind of both brought it up????

    Post # 16
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I guess he did – as I can recall the first time we talked about marriage was prob year 3 and my husband asked me if i was happy with the way things were & asked if I wanted to be engaged. I told him I was happy with the current situation and he agreed too. 

    About 6ish months later I woke up one day and wanted to marry him like that day – so since he had asked several times if I wanted to be engaged, when I finally knew that I wanted to be, I flat out told him. We were engaged 3 weeks later πŸ™‚ 

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