Post # 1
I’m sure this has been asked before but I’m still a little new and can’t find it….. But who was it that first brought up the idea of marriage? You or your SO? Or was a proposal a complete surprise? It’s been 5 years for us and I really don’t want to be the one to bring it up and get anegative response but after 5 years I’d like to have SOME future goal together. But I’m getting the idea that if I wait for him it’s never going to happen lol.
Post # 3
Fiance convinced me to go on a date with him “because I’m going to marry you one day, so why wouldn’t you want to date me now?” lol
Post # 4
Honestly, I can’t really remember. I feel like it might have been me, but very early on. We talked about marriage in pretty generic tersm until the last couple of years.
Post # 5
@futuremrsk18: Love this!
My husband brought it up first. I had no doubts from very early in the relationship that marriage was his intention.
Post # 6
SO brought it up first as I can remember. It was very sweet.
Post # 7
My guy brought it up first
Post # 8
He did. We had been dating for about 2ish months and he said (after we had drank quite a few beers) “I am so marrying your ass someday”.
He’s such a romantic.
Post # 9
I had to. After 3 years of being crazy in love, he’d never once brought it up. I was in tears and upset by the time I finally had to bring it up to him.
Post # 10
It sort of came up in conversation. We were talking about his lease being up and if he was planning to stay where he was (we lived 3 hours apart at the time) or if he was going to relocate to my area. That led to talking about our relationship & where it was going, at which point a long term future, including marriage, was discussed. It was a very organic & spontaneous conversation, and it was a bit early on in our relationship, but I’m glad we laid everything out, all our intentions were on the table, in the open, and available for discussion.
Post # 11
Hmmm… I remember a time when we actually broke up for a month and we were trying to figure out how to make things work, he asked “Where do you see us in five years?” That was such a big scary question at the time, but I truthfully answered that if I am with him, then we’d be married and settled. That was probably the first mention.
After that I guess it was just naturally an assumption and part of conversation. In the beginning though I definitely brought it up more.
Post # 12
@Missafraidtohope: after 5 years together if he freaks out from you bringing up the idea of marriage then your with the wrong person.
No the proposal wasn’t a surprise. I don’t know anyone that had a completely surprising proposal. Anyone I know that’s married had some idea that it was coming. The surprise is usually the ring and how he proposes, not that he wants to marry you.
I pretty much knew within a 2 week time frame when it would be, and the day of I totally knew he was going to do it.
I couldn’t tell you who brought up marriage first. I know that at one point we discussed the future as “maybe one day…” or “if we ever get married…” that turned into “when we get married….” . I could never pin point the point it changed just know that it had changed around the 6 month mark of dating.
ETA: I think everything came up because his lease with his roommate came due to be re-signed. So we discussed took that to be a chance to discuss some things, we agreed at the time, that if we were still together by the time the lease came up again, that he wouldn’t resign with his roommate.
He in turn decided to let his roommate know it was most likely the last time resigning with him.
Post # 13
Technically he did, over 4 years ago, before he even told me he loved me. But it was SO long ago and we’ve broken up and gotten back together since then, that it’s really been a mutual thing.
Post # 14
He did when we were drinking one night.
I asked him about it again the next day and he was very adament that he was serious about what he said.
Post # 15
Fiance brought it up really early in our relationship… maybe a year in. It totallly freaked me out cause I wasn’t ready to think about it (we were only 17 lol). But by the time we were together 4 years I couldn’t WAIT for him to ask me lol. Now we have been happily engaged for a year and have been together for 5 years 🙂
Post # 16
He did, about two months in. He wanted to get it out in the open that it was something he wanted and would like to work towards with me. Obviously we weren’t ready to get engaged, but we were on the same page.