(Closed) Who brought up the idea of marriage first?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Who was the first to suggest the possibility of marriage?
    I suggested it : (31 votes)
    24 %
    SO suggested it : (48 votes)
    37 %
    We just always talked about it since I can remember : (47 votes)
    36 %
    The proposal was a complete surprise, I didn't see it coming : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    6741 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Fiance convinced me to go on a date with him “because I’m going to marry you one day, so why wouldn’t you want to date me now?”  lol

    Post # 4
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Honestly, I can’t really remember. I feel like it might have been me, but very early on. We talked about marriage in pretty generic tersm until the last couple of years.

    Post # 5
    1553 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @futuremrsk18:  Love this!

    My husband brought it up first.  I had no doubts from very early in the relationship that marriage was his intention.

    Post # 6
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    SO brought it up first as I can remember. It was very sweet. 

    Post # 7
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My guy brought it up first

    Post # 8
    436 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    He did.  We had been dating for about 2ish months and he said (after we had drank quite a few beers) “I am so marrying your ass someday”.

    He’s such a romantic. Tongue Out

    Post # 9
    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I had to. After 3 years of being crazy in love, he’d never once brought it up. I was in tears and upset by the time I finally had to bring it up to him.

    Post # 10
    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It sort of came up in conversation.  We were talking about his lease being up and if he was planning to stay where he was (we lived 3 hours apart at the time) or if he was going to relocate to my area.  That led to talking about our relationship & where it was going, at which point a long term future, including marriage, was discussed.  It was a very organic & spontaneous conversation, and it was a bit early on in our relationship, but I’m glad we laid everything out, all our intentions were on the table, in the open, and available for discussion.

    Post # 11
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Hmmm… I remember a time when we actually broke up for a month and we were trying to figure out how to make things work, he asked “Where do you see us in five years?” That was such a big scary question at the time, but I truthfully answered that if I am with him, then we’d be married and settled. That was probably the first mention.

    After that I guess it was just naturally an assumption and part of conversation. In the beginning though I definitely brought it up more.

    Post # 12
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Missafraidtohope:   after 5 years together if he freaks out from you bringing up the idea of marriage then your with the wrong person.

    No the proposal wasn’t a surprise. I don’t know anyone that had a completely surprising proposal. Anyone I know that’s married had some idea that it was coming. The surprise is usually the ring and how he proposes, not that he wants to marry you.

    I pretty much knew within a 2 week time frame when it would be, and the day of I totally knew he was going to do it. 

    I couldn’t tell you who brought up marriage first. I know that at one point we discussed the future as “maybe one day…”  or  “if we ever get married…” that turned into “when we get married….” . I could never pin point the point it changed just know that it had changed around the 6 month mark of dating. 

     ETA: I think everything came up because his lease with his roommate came due to be re-signed. So we discussed took that to be a chance to discuss some things, we agreed at the time, that if we were still together by the time the lease came up again, that he wouldn’t resign with his roommate. 

    He in turn decided to let his roommate know it was most likely the last time resigning with him. 



    Post # 13
    4929 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Technically he did, over 4 years ago, before he even told me he loved me. But it was SO long ago and we’ve broken up and gotten back together since then, that it’s really been a mutual thing. 

    Post # 14
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee

    He did when we were drinking one night.

    I asked him about it again the next day and he was very adament that he was serious about what he said.

    Post # 15
    527 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Fiance brought it up really early in our relationship… maybe a year in.  It totallly freaked me out cause I wasn’t ready to think about it (we were only 17 lol). But by the time we were together 4 years I couldn’t WAIT for him to ask me lol.  Now we have been happily engaged for a year and have been together for 5 years 🙂

    Post # 16
    1669 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    He did, about two months in. He wanted to get it out in the open that it was something he wanted and would like to work towards with me. Obviously we weren’t ready to get engaged, but we were on the same page.

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