Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
I was planning on going with my FI right after the holidays to buy his wedding band (mine is coming from oversees, but I think we can get a good deal on his at sales (he’s looking at a plain titanium or white gold). When I mentioned that I was saving up the money to buy his, he looked at me shocked and said that it was his responsibility to buy both of our wedding rings. He is a total non-wedding guy, but was really insistant about this.
Does the man buy both wedding bands or do you each buy the other one’s wedding band?
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I’ve always been told that he buys yours and you buy his. Unless your my Fiance, he is insistant on buying both of ours. Do what ever you feel is right. In this day in age it can go both ways.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
- Wedding: November 2013 - Makena Cove
My husband thought he paid for both as well, however, we went with “We’ll buy our wedding bands.” It’s all the same money in the end game right?
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
@renwoman: I always heard the “you buy each others ring” and all. But ours are free! The deal going on when purshasing the E-ring was you get $100 for every $300 you spend, so we have almost $1000 to spend on rings (or if we don’t use it all on bands, he can get me more presents later 🙂 hahah
Post # 6
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Busy bee
FI bought my engagement ring. The wedding bands got a little bit complicated. FI didn’t understand why I need two rings. He thinks its a ploy by the wedding industry to get more money, so he really wasn’t on board with spending more than $250 on a band. I tried to explain that this wasn’t a realistic scenario because my E ring is a pretty big oval halo and so fitting something against was next to impossible. He’s a very frugal guy so we sort of just agreed to disagree on it. He will probably buy his own band (tungsten or something of the like) and I, with the help of my parents, paid for my own wedding ring (it was $960). It was a little frustrating that he didn’t WANT to buy the band for me, but at the same time it would have drained more than half of what he had in savings, so I do understand that.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@LeonardLady: Wow that is a really good deal!!
@renwoman: I have always assumed that you get each other your rings. However, each couple is different, so do whatever feels right for you.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
We paid for mine (FI didn’t want one) from our joint account (all our money is joint now so there was no way anyway for one of us to go, well I’ll pay. It’s all coming from the same pot).
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
All of our money was joint at the time so they both came out of our account. For what it’s worth, my engagement ring also came out of the same account.
Edit to add: We’ve had joint finances since we’ve last moved 1.5 years ago. I also stay-at-home so technically speaking, he paid for it.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
@renwoman: I voted he buys yours and you buy his. He was given my Ering and his wedding band (heirloom), but he paid for mine to be resized and I paid for his to be resized. He’s also paying for my band and I bought him an engagement ring when I first proposed to him.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
I voted “other”. I think it should be both of you. I’m thinking the man gets the short end of the stick if your buy each other’s!!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
We have joint bank accounts, so “other” – BOTH of us bought them. 🙂
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
Traditionally you are to buy each other’s BUT in this day and age anything goes. If you are not traditional then it’s ok for him to buy both rings, if he wants to.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
I funded and designed his man-gagement ring and his wedding band.
He did the same for my 2 rings.
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
We plan on buying each other’s ring, at this point. We shall see what happens when the time actually comes. I’d definitely be willing to pitch in for my ring though.
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
I bought our wedding rings since he bought my ering.
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