(Closed) Who Calls?….

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think whoever knows the person best should call (either you or your Fiance, or parents if necessary).

I would think it would be odd to get a call from someone I didn’t know (i.e. one of the bridesmaids).

Not sure what “proper” etiquette is, but I think the person receiving the call should know the caller personally.

Post # 3
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Definitely don’t make your BMs call your family! If it’s your family, have you or your mother call, and if it’s FI’s family, have your Fiance call.

Post # 4
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1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I haven’t had to do this yet, but my understanding is that if it’s family on my side, my mother will call; if it’s family on his side, his mother will call; if it’s friends, one of us (FI or I) will call.  Hopefully we don’t have too many of these!

Post # 6
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249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I or Fiance would do it myself. Some people choosing not to attend may be having to do so for personal reasons (health, finance, etc…) and may not feel comfortable explaining this to a Bridesmaid or Best Man or someone else. If there is a HUGE list of people to call, it would be okay to have your mother call the ones she knows, Fi’s family call theirs, etc…

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@runsyellowlites: Honestly, I would still personally call them if I were you. That’s a potentially awkward conversation, and I feel like it should be the bride’s responsibility.

Post # 8
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@runsyellowlites: Then you or your Fiance should call. It’s annoying, but it is more personal.

Post # 10
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I personally called my couple of stragglers.

Funny story, I was SO pissed that a few of the people who didnt RSVP were close friends and family. I went to ask my cousin (in a smartass way, of course. lol) and found out that several of my invites got lost in the mail…. *facepalm* She told me she was just planning on crashing anyway, even if she wasnt invited.

Post # 11
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

We just had whoever was friends with the person call. Whether it was me, my husband, his parents, or my parents.

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