Post # 1
Hi all. I was wondering, who came on to whom in the beginning of your relationship? Did he offer to buy you a drink? If you made the first move, what about him made you want to go for it and how did you do it? If it was mutual attraction from the very beginning, how was that made known? Please share your stories!
According to FI, he was very attracted to me from the first moment he saw me. I, on the other hand, did not notice him at all! We met since he was a friend of my friend’s boyfriend at the time. He caught on pretty quick that I wasn’t really looking at him romantically, so rather than asking me on a date right away, he slowly wormed his way into my life and let me warm up to him a bit first. We started spending time together just the two of us and he eventually – once he was fairly certain I would say yes – let it be known that he wanted more than friendship. Since then there has been no looking back. I am so happy he went through all that effort, because starting this relationship with him has been the best decision of my life!
Post # 3
He came on to me.
A friend of my old roommate, he had come over to play halo. I had just flopped into my “throne” (the big lazy boy in the living room) with my coffee at 3pm (I worked over nights). And he scooted over to the end of the couch and said “Well hey beautiful, come here often?”
I didn’t punch him. Pretty good sign as I hadn’t touched me coffee or ciggarets yet. He kepty making excuses to come over and see me, and I finally agreed to a date after a month of him hanging around. Best choice ever.
Post # 4
We met online, so… both of us? I messaged him first, but he emailed me back. After that we chatted through MSN at his request and met at mine. It was pretty even I guess.
Post # 5
His twin brother is dating my colleague. I had not long broken up wih my ex of 4 years and told her i wasnt interested in anyone. He kept asking her about me and after a few months i decided to send him a message on facebook. He replied and we exchanged messages for a while. He text me a day later and said he was coming to my town to go to tesco because his computer game was coming out that night..so yeah our first date was to the supermarket at midnight so he could get his star wars game- geek!!
Post # 6
He came on to me.
Despite going to a school that wasn’t overly huge, we hadn’t really crossed paths before. We knew eachothers names, but never talked to eachother. Then I guess one day he was walking by me while I was bent over at my locker and took a liking to my thong. lol
He added me to good ol’ MSN Messenger and the rest is history! I was very excited to have such a goodlooking, nice guy (who was on the hockey team!) show interest in me, as I typically only attracted jerks prior to that.
Post # 7
I did. After 5 years of bouncing between being alone and casually dating a series of wrong men, I was very ready to meet someone different. We met at a large party, where I had asked a good friend to point out the nice single men and my FI was the 3rd name on her list. After meeting him, I thought he was super cute and very sweet – definitely the kind of nice guy I was looking for! I chickened out of making a move in person, so I friended him on Facebook and sent a flirty message! We spent the next 2 months emailing, calling, and texting constantly to get to know each other before making it official.
Post # 8
He did. I gave him a ride as a favor for a mutual friend and he didn’t talk the whole car ride. Awkward. Apparently he noticed me though cause a few weeks later he found me on MySpace and we started talking & texting all the time which led to hanging out and so forth.
Post # 9
We met on eHarmony, but I was the initiator!
I saw where he was from (my hometown), and messaged him asking if he’d ever seen any of the plays at my old high school. Turns out, he WENT to my old high school and was in plays during his time there (he’s 4 years older, so we never crossed paths!)
In fact, we went to the same middle school, high school, AND college… we knew all the same people and teachers… oh, and now we work for the same company 😉
Someday, I’m going to wake up and find out that we’re the same person 😛
Post # 10
All me! FI is really shy.
Post # 11
I did, at least initially! I asked him to a date party. A few days after he said yes (and before said date party) he invited me over and we hung out a few times.
Post # 12
He did. I noticed him but he was the one who came up to me.
Post # 13
He came on to me 🙂
When we were both still in college, he came in to class at the beginning of the semester and was looking for a ‘cute girl to sit next to.’ That girl was me 🙂
The best part is, I told him early on that I was trying to date some other guy, but every day he still chose to sit next to me and waited until he had a shot, which came along a couple months later when I mentioned things weren’t really working out.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
He did. I liked him but thought he was too arrogant haha, thankfully he didn’t give up.
Post # 15
At a swing dance, I totally came onto him, and it’s a good thing I did because he flat out told me that he never thought I would go for him, and he never would have had the nerve to talk to me first. I liked him for the moment I saw him. I had a boyfriend at the time, but we were having a lot of issues and I was absolutely miserable with him and broke up with him the next day. I just had to talk to this adorable stranger as soon as he walked in the door. I was instantly drawn to him. He was with his guy friend and they both seemed pretty harmless, so I just walked up to them and said “Hi, you don’t know me but I don’t know anybody here so I just thought I’d introduce myself.” We smiled, we shook hands, and eventually his friend split off and it was just the two of us talking. We sparked instantly and his friend picked up on it and left us alone.
I was trying to be as subtle as possible even though I felt like I was throwing myself at him, but he would later tell me that he had no idea I was flirting with him. He just thought I was making conversation because there’s no way a girl like me would go for a guy like him (I wish he wasn’t so self-deprocating!). It wasn’t until his friend pulled him aside halfway through the dance and said “Dude, she is totally trying to pick you up!” that he finally got the hint.We spent the whole night dancing, and then he walked me to my car and asked me for my phone number, and the rest is history. That was almost 9 months ago, and we are now living together and loving it. 🙂
Post # 16
I came on to him. We were younger. I was 17 and he was 18. He thought I was 16 and was afraid to be inapropriate or well, illegal. But once he realized I was of legal age and wanted him, everything was good to go! lol