Post # 1
I went looking around and sent e-mails back in forth with my sister and best friend. I stupidly ended up choosing the dress my sister liked the most, and I would change it if I could go back and just be the ultimate decision maker. The dresses ended up being tea length even though we were originally told the designer could make them floor length (which is what I wanted). For the other 4 BMs, we just let them know what dress they chose and gave them a window to get measured and go order their dresses.
Or, if I would have done my colors like I originally wanted (black, white, crimson) I would have let the girls just choose their own LBD. I just didn’t choose this option because my sister wanted those colors for her future wedding (even though she wasn’t engaged or anything, but she did end up eloping during my wedding planning). Anyway, hindsight is 20/20.
So, who ended up making the decision about your dresses? Were you happy with the way it all ended up?
Post # 3
My Maid/Matron of Honor and I chose them together, but we went with the one she felt most comfortable in. I absolutely don’t regret the way they were chosen.
Post # 4
Lillindy, thanks for sharing your experience. I’m going through a similar issue with my sister. I’m thinking of letting my BM’s choose whatever dress they want from the same designer, but specifying the color, fabric, and length. My sister is questioning my color choice and telling me that she feels like floor length is more flattering. But my ceremony is outside and I want the dresses to be shorter (though I don’t particularly care exactly where it hits). My sister is also pregnant and I guess feeling like she doesn’t want to look terrible at my wedding. But hearing your thoughts I think I will regret it if I don’t like the color or length of the dresses. So I guess I need to be a bit more assertive. I want everyone to feel good and am willing to work to make that happen, but not at the expense of completely compromising what I think will make my wedding look good. As it is, my sister never even consulted me about her Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses…she just asked me to get measured and order it.
Post # 5
HAHA My 2 sisters are being MOH’s in my wedding. They have already picked out and bought their dresses, and I haven’t even seen them!
I gave them a few guidlines, black, knee length and not strapless, basically the ‘little black dress’ and they didn’t have to match. My sisters were out shopping, found something they both liked (at WalMart of all places) for $25 and snatched them up.
Way less stress for me by giving them a few guidlines and letting them choose thier own dresses
I only wish the rest of the wedding was this easy to take care of.
Post # 6
I chose them, tracked them down, and bought them for my girls. Also got the flower girl and junior bridesmaid dresses, and ties for the gents. The colors are going to be so beautiful!
Post # 7
I only have my Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man (and one male attendant, but he doesn’t need to worry about dress-shopping). They each have very different body types and somewhat limited budgets. I don’t want them to have to compromise on some dress that only sort of works for both of them and I trust their sense of style, so I’m just asking them to get (preferably matte) solid chocolate-brown knee/tea-length dresses and leaving everything else up to them.
Post # 8
I’m giving the girls options to pick the dress they want, as long as they are tea-length and come in the same fabric and color.
Post # 9
I gave them the color, and style (tea length, not floor length) and we went to Davids and they tried on a bunch of different ones. It was surprisingly easy, they all tried on one style and it looked good on everyone (I have three girls, ranging from a 6 to a 22) and they all loved it. Plus, it is a seperates style, so they can totally wear the top with some jeans, and it would be adorable!!
I was expecting a struggle, and having to settle with three different dresses, but my girls were great!!
Post # 10
i asked my BMs to find a black dress that at least covered to the knee. i dont care how long the dress is, what material it is, or what the sleeves look like. i just care that its black. theyre choosing their own hair, shoes, makeup, and jewelry also. i’m buying them shawls that match my color scheme. i’m pretty hands-off for a bride, i guess. this is also what my SIL did and all the BMs look put together.
Post # 11
I sent out an email to my girls letting them know that I wanted them in floor-length navy blue gowns and to start looking at websites so I could get an idea of what styles they liked. No one was really into picking out the dress as it "was my wedding". I really could have strangled them! Here I was trying to involve them in the process (and keep the gowns under $150) and they wanted nothing to do with it. Unreal. I ended up going to try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses myself and snapping pics to email out. The one I ended up picking was Alfred Angelo and we ended up getting it for $136 each. And they all looked great in it – so I have no qualms abnout how it was chosen…. well, it may have been nice if someone other than me was interested in what they were wearing, but hey, it was my wedding.
At a wedding I’m in this June, we were just emailed a picture and asked to send her our measurements.
Post # 12
My bridesmaids are each choosing whatever dress they want, within a specified shade range (no designer or line was specified). I wanted them to have the option of investing in something they’d wear again or spending less on something they’d wear just the once. I also didn’t want anyone in a dress she didn’t feel comfortable wearing. My only other request was that everyone share what dress they decided on so no one chooses the same one.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
I also chose the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. They all love them, luckily!! 🙂
Post # 14
I chose them b/c I have two pregant BMs who will have delivered by the wedding and two non-pregnat, very skinny BMs, so I knew finding a style that would flatter all of them would be difficult. I did consult with all of them before making the final decision, though, and they love them. They are from White House | Black Market, which can TOTALLY be worn again and again!
Post # 15
I had 4 BMs and let each of them pick their own dress- all in the same color. They all looked fabulous and felt confident and comfortable.
With the variety of heights and body-types it would have been impossible to find one dress that flattered them all. And I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man too many times forced to wear uncomfortable and unflattering dresses to make my own BMs do that!
Post # 16
@fizicsGirl: Yes, don’t let yourself get railroaded. You want to make your sister happy, but not at the expense of yourself. And shoot, if she did it that way for her wedding, don’t feel bad because you are already being more thoughtful than she was.