(Closed) Who considers themselves an 'offbeat bride'? Why?

posted 9 years ago in Themes
Post # 17
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am an off beat bride because I have created my own traditions such as I dont want anyone to give me away. My Fiance and I are walking down the isle together to signfy us walking into our new lives together. I am not registered, want no gifts, more than half the family is not invited (dysfunctional), and we could careless what anyone thinks.  No one has an opinion or should I say no one’s opinion counts except ours. So there is no point of anyone commenting on what we should or shouldnt do (waste of time).



Post # 18
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@LostInWonderland:  I consider myself an offbeat bride because (despite my FSIL’s best efforts) lace, burlap, mason jars and the word ‘whimsical’ are all banned from my wedding. 

Post # 19
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Hands up over here!

I’m offbeat because I hate anything traditional. I hate wedding dresses, bridal songs, shitty buffets, daggy dances. The whole bit. It makes it pretty hard to organise πŸ˜‰

I really just want a small wedding on the beach with no shoes and too many cocktails. 

Post # 20
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@LostInWonderland:  what song are you walking down the aisle to???  one of the big contenders for our first dance is a rancid song.

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@BridieBea:  you just described my wedding. haha!

Post # 21
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@dovelovesfalcon:  Yay! Also, I’m thinking of dancing to Cigarettes and Chocolate Milk by Rufus Wainwright for my first dance. It’s not a love song, but so what? Things like ‘Don’t Wanna Miss a Thing’ and ‘I’ll be’ are only songs on a technicality, ie- they have a rhythm and some words.  I can’t really think of anything else that would be offbeat because I’m just doing what Fiance and I like. 

Post # 22
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BridieBea:  exactly!  we’re not trying to fit into any kind of mold, though some things we are doing could be considered “traditional” and some “mainstream”.. many others are definitely not.  i don’t really consider myself an “offbeat bride”, i’m just doing me like usual!

love the song choice, btw!

Post # 23
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Stace126:  I LOVE your theme, and cake toppers! Can’t wait to see your recaps!!


I guess I would say I was an offbeat bride. We invited 11 people. No wedding party, I didnt wear a veil, we took everyone out to dinner afterwards, no dancing.  I knew from day one the last thing I wanted to do was stress about colors or table numbers or being around family I havnt seen in years. Just not me. We did very simple. It was perfect πŸ™‚

Post # 24
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014


I wouldn’t say I’m offbeat. We are just kind of doing things our own way.

Secular. Freaking. Wedding. No god. No higher power. Just me & fi, and our marriage. I’ve been getting ALOT of remarks from family on this. Both fi & I are agnostic.

We are having an open self service bar.

I’m wearing white even though most of my family has given me crap for not being a virgin. They can suck it.

We are doing our own buffet, [which is frowned upon by alot of people, but I want people fat & happy, not barely full or hardly touching a thing].

My dress is super glam & glitz.. our theme is romantic-rustic. Not quite matching, but that’s okay!

We are PRINTING OUT THE FLIPPING ENVELOPES. Yeah, I could address them myself, but my writing is bubbly and not quite fit for a wedding. I don’t care what etiquette says, they are getting typed.

We’re going a little crazy with food. We are doing a “cocktail hour” [it’s really more of a tasting hour]. With finger sandwiches, parfaits, veggies & fruits, followed by buffet dinner with TONS of choices. [Choice from 2 salads, 3 soups, 3 entrees, and 9 sides + extra toppins for the salad, soups & entrees].

We are having a bunch of little cakes 6-10″, each a differant flavor.

We are going to have “candy buffet” with ALL kinds of goodies. Probably an 8 foot banquet table, with tons of chocolates, cupcakes, brownies, cakepops, cookies, candies, chocolate covered pretzels, trail mixes, & mixed nuts!

My biological father isn’t walking me down the aisle. My step father & mother are. While he is, technically, my step father, I consider him more of a friend. He’s only 5 years old than me.. the same age as my brother. I just don’t look at him like a father, he seems me as a daughter though.

I won’t have a father/daughter dance, but a mother/daughter dance. We are also combining dances. [mother/daughter at same time as father/son…. bride/groom dollar dances at the same time].

I’m not offbeat, and we are tying in all of the traidtions we want, and getting rid of the things we don’t. It’ll still look like a typical wedding in pictures, its more of the experiance that has changed!


Post # 25
4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would say we were different and unconventional, but not really off beat or maybe that is what off beat means?  I’m not punk, quirky, stylish or anything.

We did a 2500 mile road trip to Canada and got married on this trip which we planned all in 15 days.  We had two witnesses.  We even hiked the morming of the wedding as well as every day on the trip.  We had wedding photos done in a canoe, forest, field, etc. It was a blast!

Post # 26
1082 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I love this thread. I love throwing etiquette and what other people think to the wind.

I’m giving all of you a huge round of applause! lol




Post # 27
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Our wedding will be a representation of us as a couple, even if that doesn’t fit the traditional mold of a wedding. We’re inviting only immediate family and best friends to our backyard Jewish ceremony. We won’t have any bridesmaids or groomsmen. Instead of using a caterer, we’re making the food ourselves. No alcohol or group dancing. Just a relaxing evening with good food and even better company.

Post # 28
2119 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Doing a little bit of both. On the traditional side – I will wear a white dress and the ceremony will be in a church. On the less traditional side – we’ll spend the days before the wedding with our friends fishing and rock climbing. I’ll walk to church with the bridal party and the reception will be close to the Arctic Circle in Sweden, and pretty much out in the forest. So I’ll do our wedding cake and the flowers myself, don’t think I can get a vendor for it. As for photo, same there – so we’ll just spend $1000 on a nice camera for Fiance. Feels like a smarter investment than having to drag a photog from the closest biggish town. For cocktail hours – we’ll have a mixture of Canadian and Swedish appetizers, like beef jerky and smoked reindeer. Oh, and we’ll spend our wedding night in our family cottage. No electricity, no water. πŸ™‚ Then we fly to Paris to celebrate my birthday and spend the following week biking between wine yards.


So NO limo and resort wedding! πŸ™‚

Post # 29
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Count me in! 

no limos for us we are riding our motorbikes to the hotel then walking to the registry office.  4 guests, no family, no cake, chooosing and buying a boquet the day before with the 2 female guests the day before( a risk but fun ) the  boys will no prob go out for drink. My dress is purple and my shoes are very unbridal. 

Basicly its just what we want and I cant wait. 

Post # 30
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not as untraditional in terms of what we are doing…it’s what we aren’t. We are going to a city, just us two, to get married. We will have a meal after that and enjoy our first day together as husband and wife! πŸ™‚

No invites, no dancing, no music, no one walking me down the aisle, no rehearsal dinner, no toasts. Quiet, simple and easy…just like we wanted it.

Post # 31
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

Definitely off-beat here, but maybe not as off-beat as I think I am? I’m planning a Sunday Brunch Tea kind of wedding:

– Paper flowers instead of real ones

– I am quite heavily tattooed and plan to show it

– Not planning on a veil (but a big flower instead)

– Going to try and get my dress to have some kind of not-white feature (even if it’s an oyster or pearl color)

– Bridesmaids aren’t going to match

– And am going to try and incorporate as much fun and games in my wedding as possible

I’ve been to a lot of weddings and the ones that were the most fun were the ones that were more non-traditional. So don’t be afraid to throw a nerf gun in the mix! πŸ™‚

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