(Closed) Who considers themselves an 'offbeat bride'? Why?

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Post # 62
35 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m doing everything on my own, decorations, food, makeup, hair, he will probably be the one helping me zipping my dress, (nothing big or poify). As I went through other brides forums and blogs, I got depressed. There are so many rules, traditions, etiquette, I was so stressed out! And the amount of money some spends, gosh I can’t ever see myself spending that kind of money. I am going for something simple and sweet, I want my 35 guest to go home and telling themselves, ( oww they are so perfectly made for each other, so in love)…

Post # 63
1 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

Not sure if I am offbeat but we are certainly doing things our way!  No church wedding and I am making my entrance to rock music.  We are hoping to have our own vows reflecting our shared interests and strengths.  We are both into sci-fi and fantasy fiction, games and books, so both of those are going to be incorporated into the reception with table decorations of books and candles and a console set up with splitscreen game for guests to have a go at.  I don’t want anything at our wedding that will immediately die afterwards so no cut flowers.  My bouquet will be made of silk flowers and we’re having willow trees & flowering plants as decorations round the room.  These will then go into a hedgerow at my parents house and into our garden so will be a lasting living memory of our day.  We aren’t having a DJ and instead doing our own playlist  on an ipod and borrowing sound kit to play it.  We aren’t having a photographer either as we both hate posing for photos so we’ve asked all our guests to bring their cameras and SLRs and send us all their shots after.  Food is a pig roast buffet so plenty for people to stuff themselves with.  My nod to tradition is I am having an ivory dress and veil but my shoes are multicoloured masterpieces!  It is going to be very ‘us’ and we are going to have an amazing day, just hope our guests do to.  

Post # 64
34 posts
  • Wedding: November 1999

I like this thread!

We’re doing things a little differently, even though it’s sometimes hard not to fall victim to tradition and you think ‘should i be doing that?’  So I’m glad this thread was started!

We’re doing a few things ‘offbeat’:

I’m not wearing a white dress, it’s champagne and not poofy at all.

Our reception is in a Gastropub opposed to a traditional venue.

Our STD’s did not have our picture on it, instead are an ode to Brooklyn (I made them myself)

We’re having about 15 craft beers on tap (We love good beer) We’ll also serve FI’s own home-brew as well.

No cake. Cupcakes.

My maids will not match.  They have full reign to pick their own style.  They are all so different.





Post # 65
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I thought I was having a fairly traditional wedding, but I’ve cut some things and changed others so now I think I can say I’m pretty offbeat.

Having a wedding at the Outer Banks isn’t all that offbeat, but I’m a local, so it won’t have a beachy/nautical theme and look super-touristy. There will be some shoutouts to the OBX, most likely in the form of seashells I can easily collect on the beach. But the color will be a deep purple rather than the pastels that are ubiquitous there.  Wherever the ceremony and reception will be will probably already have pastel shit everywhere, and the purple will hopefully balance that out.

I haven’t decided on a place to have the ceremony, but it’s likely going to be at the NC Aquarium, or by the Currituck Lighthouse.  I’d like it to be at the top, but that’s a gruelling hike for anyone so I’ll have to settle for something ground-level.

I’m an atheist, and fi isn’t religious either, so no religious readings or references to God.  This will make trying to find an officiant interesting…

I’ll also be walking down the aisle to a mash-up of two songs from Avatar: The Last Airbender and The Legend of Korra instead of a traditional wedding march.


We won’t be having half this trendy, extravagant wedding crap either.  No menus at the reception, probably just a buffet of some sort.  No limos.  No super-fancy centerpieces… just a few votive candles and shells.  It’ll be simple and intimate, not overblown and “elegant,” which is a word I’m REALLY starting to get tired of.

Post # 66
725 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think i would consider myself a lil bit weird, i have always been a bit gothic(although i dont dress very goth now) and my Fiance is in a punk band so i never really wanted a normal wedding.

We decided on black, white and red for the colours and i’m trying to fit a kinda skulls roses and music theme in there somehow… if any one has any ideas i am open to suggestions.Laughing

Post # 67
1650 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LostInWonderland:  I think my venue is off beat, def not traditional. My dress is a sherbet color (pink/yellow/white tulle mix). I think I have some unique things, the whole wedding is not nontraditional, but it has a few nontraditional elements. 🙂

Post # 68
616 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re athiests, getting ready in and staying the night in our own house, serving pre-ceremony snacks and cocktails, not having bridal party, not wearing a veil, not having theme, not having colors, not providing meal choices, not doing special dances, serving pie for dessert and the venue is a children’s museum. TBH I spend more time on OBB than here!

Post # 70
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We’ve decided to elope. Well, it will be planned and we are inviting our moms.


Pink wedding dress with brooch bouquet. 


I don’t think it’s that offbeat. But people I talk to seem really suprised by the eloping and pink dress.

Post # 71
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

I am offbeat in everyday life so I guess our weding is offbeat because it will well and truly represent us as a couple, which I believe weddings should do.

I’m a pin up burlesque artist who dresses in 1950s style every day and my fiance has a PhD in film and owns an independant dvd rental store, where we also live.

We are both huge film nuts, for me it’s mainly classic films, and we are getting married in an 80 year old cinema where I used to work.

I’m wearing a replica gown of the gown Audrey Hepburn wore in Roman Holiday, with ruby slippers and walking in to the theme from Gone With the Wind.

Our friend is becoming a celebrant in order to marry us – she’s also president of our local film society that we belong to.

Our recepetion is in a theatre and all of the music used for the special bits will be from movie soundtracks.

Our cake will have movie scenes on it with a cake topper of us sitting in cinema chairs with popcorn.

There will be other elements which people wouldd call vintage themed, but really, it’s just my every day style!

Post # 72
2246 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@MissBettsy:  Your atyle and wedding sounds phenomenal!


I would consider myself an “offbeat lite” bride, mainly because there are aspects of our wedding that shall be traditional (but they are traditions which have meaning to us as individuals and as a couple, as opposed to traditions that we’re following for the sake of it) but there are also aspects that some people will view to be outside the norm.

I’ve listed the details so far and you can see which ones are traditional and which ones are offbeat


I’ll be wearing a long white/ivory veil over my red wedding gown, and changing into a black trumpet gown with a birdcage veil for the reception.

My wedding look will be modelled on Regina Mills/The Evil Queen from “Once Upon a Time”. I love her so much – I’m planning on including apples for my boudoir shoot and maybe wearing mirror shoes: http://www.marcdefang.com/Mirror_shoes_p/mc-1172.htm

We’ll be getting married in Catholic Church and doing the Filipino veil and cord ritual at the same time as a Celtic handfasting to honour both our heritages.

We’ll be doing a first look and there will be no garter or bouquet toss.

My father shall be walking me down the aisle.

There will be homages to our mutual love of horror movies through out the wedding like figurines of our favourite horror movie killers on the tables and cutting the cake with a meat cleaver. My friend Joe, upon hearing this, now wants to learn the tune in Psycho so he can play it whilst we cut the cake. And I really REALLY want to either do Evanora’s nails from “Oz: The Great and Powerful” or do blood spattered ones.

Our reception will be held at a restaurant and it will be a sit-down dinner.

My something old, new, borrowed, blue will be my tattoos – just don’t tell my mother Tongue Out

Our bachelor and bachelorette parties may end up being joined. Mine will already be co-ed as I don’t see the point of excluding my male friends simply because their goodies stick out, and the Fiance and I both want to do the Zombie Survival Challenge – where you “hunt” zombies with soft pellet rifles – and go to a strip club. And we’ll end up in the same one.


There are also plenty of other things which I know will raise the eyebrows of my very conservative relatives in the Philippines. They’re planning on living together before marriage?!? Shock! Horror! Tongue Out


Post # 73
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I considered my wedding to be “Offbeat Lite.” It was Edgar Allan Poe themed, we played metal during the reception (just enough to satisfy DH), and had skulls as part of the decor. I walked down the aisle to “Stolen” by Dashboard Confessional, didn’t wear a veil of any sort, my dress was a bridesmaid dress I got in ivory, our entire wedding party wore Converses (and the girls were in black cocktail dresses), we did a handfasting as part of our ceremony, and we had artisan pizzas as the appetizer at our reception. Overall, our wedding was the pefect mix of casual and formal.

Oh, and, DH attended both of my bridal showers.


Post # 74
191 posts
Blushing bee

I love this thread. So fun!!

-Our theme is Tim Burton’s Nightmare Before Christmas
-My bridesmaids are walking in to a Zelda song and I am walking in to a lord of the rings song
-We have a huge bridal party
-No one is giving me away this ceremony is based on equality not an exchange of “goods”
-Nothing religious in the ceremony. We have never been religious.
-Invitations have Jack and Sally’s silhouette – cake topper is Jack and Sally, Jack and sally candlesticks on the head table. Black and white striped back drop (think Beetlejuice’s suit)
-Ceremony is in a very old school (rumoured to be haunted)
-We have a jumbo jenga game in the entrance-way of the reception with NBC trivia and facts about groom and myself

I love some tradition but the wedding should represent you and the groom and if you have the opportunity to be quirky and you want to then DO IT!

Post # 75
900 posts
Busy bee

I don’t even consider myself a (potential) “bride,” does that qualify as “offbeat” enough?  Wink

My partner and I are planning to have a non-legal commitment ceremony or commitment celebration.  We don’t intend for it to resemble a traditional wedding.  We don’t want there to be any confusion among the (very small) group of attendees about whether or not we are married; we are not getting married.  We do want to celebrate our commitment with our friends and family, but we don’t intend to marry.

We will have rings, but we’re not yet decided on whether or not we will exchange any during the ceremony, or simply wear them.

I will wear a dress, and he will probably wear a suit or nice slacks and a button-down shirt, but my dress won’t look like a “wedding gown.”  Oh, and it will be red.  Because red is awesome, and I don’t buy into the purity myth bullshit.  We will not have a wedding cake.  We will have lots of pies, because we’re planning this to be a joint Commitment Celebration and Pi Day Party (we’re having it on 3-14-2015). There will be no “bridal party,” no processional, no speeches, none of that.  We will not have an officiant.  We’ll probably just stand up at some point during the party, say something about how we love each other and intend to continue doing so for the forseeable future, then tell people to enjoy their Pi.  We may mention that we believe that love, like pi, is both irrational and natural, but is most enjoyable when approached logically, and then devoured with abandon.

Post # 76
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@bec4dave:  I want to go to your wedding!!! 😀

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