(Closed) Who decides how the Bridesmaids will wear their hair?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who decides how the Bridesmaids will style their hair for my wedding?
    The Bride chooses a style for them, that compliments the Brides hair : (13 votes)
    8 %
    The Bridesmaids choose their own style because they are paying for it : (99 votes)
    59 %
    The hairstylist, she's an expert & will make sure you outshine them all : (4 votes)
    2 %
    The Bride chooses a style up, down, half up / down... but BM chooses within the style : (53 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    6743 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think the bride can suggest a style or suggest a style that’s not permitted, but if the bride intends for the Bridesmaid or Best Man to get their hair professionally done, she really should pay for it.  I don’t know which option this falls into – Bride can suggest a style, but unless she’s paying for it, can’t demand one.  That’s what I would pick lol..

    Post # 4
    2605 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Well, for one, I don’t think that any hairstyle is going to outshine you–you are the bride and by virtue, you trump everyone. But practically-speaking, any hairdresser or salon is going to spend waaay more time on you than any of your BMs anyway. And besides, you don’t necessarily want the most ornate hairstlye out there–you want the best one for YOU and something that completes your whole “look,” which might be something very simple. So just remember forest for the trees, here!

    Most weddings I’ve attended/been a Bridesmaid or Best Man for allowed BMs to choose their own hairstyles based on whatever would be flattering for them. In a couple of cases, a bride requested that everyone’s hair be down or up, which I personally think is fine ONLY if the BRIDE pays for it (otherwise, it seems a bit much to force your BMs to plunk down cash for a hairstyle YOU want, but not necessarily what THEY want).

    Post # 5
    2554 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I say let them choose. The furthest i would go is up or down but really, in the end, having everyone look best in whatever style suits them is what will be the best for everyone.

    Post # 6
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I paid and I also let them pick.  They all turned out great – trust me, no one is going to outshine the bride even if they have the best hairstyle ever!  🙂

    Post # 7
    2450 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    if you are paying for their hair to be done, you can decide. if they are paying for it, you can give guidelines and that’s about it.

    Post # 8
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m having my Maid/Matron of Honor choose whatever she wants.  =)

    Post # 9
    2009 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think if you’re requiring them to get their hair done at all, you should pay for it.

    But I also think they should choose their style.

    Post # 10
    1572 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    they do…within your taste. nothing tacky and im good

    Post # 11
    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I agree with some of the PP’s.  If the BM’s are required to get their hair done then you should pay for it.

    Otherwise, if they are paying for it themselves they should be able to choose whatever style they want (and also be allowed the option of doing their own hair).

    Post # 12
    22 posts
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree with everyone else. You can give some guidelines. All I asked of my Bridesmaid or Best Man is that they wear it off there face pinned back somehow either up or down. I just dont want pictures with hair in everyones face…lol We are chipping in for everyone to get hair and make-up done (cant pay for all 7 BM) but in my experiance as a Bridesmaid or Best Man I wanted to do what my friend (the bride) wanted, my Bridesmaid or Best Man seem to have the same feelings. Some of them asked what I wanted their hair to look like…I dont think you will have too much of a problem.

    Post # 13
    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Mine are all required to shave their heads.  

    Post # 14
    2589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Option 5 – not wasting time and energy worrying about being “outshined” by a …. hairstyle?




    Post # 15
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    My bridesmaids did whatever they liked with their hair.

    Post # 16
    11351 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009


    There you are with that razor-sharp wit again! Hahaha!


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