- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My fiance and I were given a set amount of money by each set of our parents to use however we like for the wedding. Because the rehearsal dinner is traditionally hosted by the groom’s parents, they have asked us to do something upscale for the rehearsal dinner, and we are happy to meet their request. We are doing all of the planning ourselves for all wedding weekend events, including the hiring of caterers, venues, etc.
I would like to design the invitation for the rehearsal dinner myself because I am both computer savvy and into design (I’m a full time wedding photographer). However, I imagine the invitation is typically done by the groom’s parents, since it usually says something like, “Please join us for a rehearsal dinner in honor of so and so bride and so and so groom, hosted by so and so, parents of the groom.”
My future Mother-In-Law has not indicated that she wants to design/send out the rehearsal dinner invites, but she is always glad to take control of things and I am sure she would love to help out. I am excited to design it and make sure it has the look my fiance and I like, and I’m afraid if we let my Mother-In-Law do it, it will be a lot more traditional and not our style. I know I can cheaply design and print the invitations, spending less than my Mother-In-Law would if she does it herself. I plan to get her input on what the wording will be and will let her design it if she really wants to do it.
Also, as far as the RSVP person goes, we are the ones who are giving the final number to the caterer, so shouldn’t they rsvp to us? Not sure about how to word the invite, since my fiance’s parents will probably want to be mentioned. Is it ok to say, “hosted by the groom’s parents” and rsvp to the bride?
Just curious what you all think. Can I (the bride) design the rehearsal dinner invite, or should my Mother-In-Law design it?