Post # 1
Just curious how many speeches everyone had, who did them, and their experiences with them. Did they get too long and rambly? Do you wish you’d encouraged more people? I know a lot of people skip them these days, were you happy with that choice?
I know there are certain people that traditionally give speeches at weddings, but we were thinking of just kind of ‘opening up the floor’. Obviously it would be discussed before hand, but basically people can choose if they want to do one or not. I feel like it will alleviate stress for some as well as possibly keep them a bit more entertaining. We have big, funny families and it’ll be a pretty chill drink-heavy wedding so hopefully they’ll be entertaining..
So far the people that have volunteered:
My sister (and probably a group one with all three of my sisters)
The best man
Another groomsman (a little nervous about this one as he tends to get hammered and can either be sweet as pie, or unintentionally offensive. he cried with joy when we got engaged and then decided he wanted to propose to his gf too so we could ‘have a joint wedding’ haha)
Probably his dad
Not sure how to tell people they are welcome to speech if they want to speech though. But maybe that’s enough anyway.
Post # 2
My dad (my parents hosted), the best man, and the maid of honor. All three kept their speeches under 3 minutes. The toasts took less than 10 minutes which was perfect.
I prefer it when there aren’t too many speeches at a wedding.
Post # 3
We’re keeping it to us, Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. I hate weddings with lots of speeches and don’t intend on boring people.
Are you at all worried that opening up the floor will bring too many speeches? I was watching an episode of Four Weddings where they opened up the floor and all the guest brides complained about the whole night was the insane amount of speeches.
Post # 4
Re: Are you at all worried that opening up the floor will bring too many speeches?
I would worry about this too. They did this style thing at my grandparets 50th anniversary and it ended up being one drunk guy grabbing the mic every other person to tell a story until. It went on forever until the mic was forcibly removed from his hands.
Post # 5
I feel like your speeches would get out of control and it would end up being way too long for people to sit and listen.
I’m not married, but typically at weddings I have been to the following people do speeches:
-Maid/Matron of Honor
– Best Man
– A member of her family to welcome the groom
– A member of his family to welcome the bride
– The bride and groom to thank everyone
I find even that, mixed with slideshows, MC’s etc. gets to be a bit much.
Post # 7
I’m being very specific that there will be TOASTS and NOT speeches. A speech can get long and rambly and a toast is short and sweet. I don’t want anyone except the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man giving toasts at the wedding. If other people want to say a few words at the rehearsal dinner, that’s cool, but I’m not going to make my 200 guests listen to half my family and the wedding party talk about us for half an hour before they can eat…
Post # 8
-My dad (he did kind of a welcome thing, and then a short speech)
-MOH (my sister)
-BM (his brother)
-His dad (really more of a toast than a speech, it was under a minute)
Post # 9
co-MOHs (did one speech together), and Best Man. No parents gave speeches. I think
my husband may have done a two minute “thanks for coming” deal but I can’t remember anymore haha. We kept them short and sweet and went back to partying!
Post # 10
I wouldn’t open it up to everyone, maybe just the ones that volunteered? That is already plenty.
My dad and two of the groomsmen made speeches at our wedding, and it was perfect. 🙂
Post # 11
Please don’t open the floor for speaches!! I can tell you as a wedding vendor that guests *hate* it. Speaches should be kept to a minimum, because let’s face it, your guests don’t want to spend forever listening to people talk. I’ve had weddings where they just wouldn’t quit and people were so bored – they just want to finish up dinner and get to the mingling/dancing/drinking.
My dad did a short welcome, with a few jokes in there, prior to dinner. During the reception our best man and maid of honor each did a short speech.
I was a bridesmaid at a wedding where they did something sweet at the rehearsal dinner. Because it was just bridal party + dates, and immediate family and close friends it was more initmate. After dinner a family friend got up and asked for people to share stories about the couple. Various people got up and shared stories. We all had a lot of laughs, because those of us there were obviously much closer than the average wedding guest.
Post # 12
At the wedding we attended prior to our own, the speeches did get a little long and rambly (only a handful of people spoke but they just went on and on) – the father of the groom even went on about how wonderful his wife is for about 3 minutes. We knew that we did not want the same thing to occur at our wedding. We instructed everyone to keep it to less than 3 minutes and gave our MC permission to cut people off if they went for too long. I think that everyone actually kept it to around a minute thirty.
My Mother-In-Law opened the speeches, followed by my dad, followed by my sister (MOH – there was no best man and she felt like the bridal party should say something) who also did the toast. Then DH and I gave a quick thank you speech.
We did our speeches after the main course, just before we cut the cake.
Post # 13
I had my Maid/Matron of Honor and hubby had his Bridesmaid or Best Man and the other 3 groomsmen do quick toasts/speeches. My Maid/Matron of Honor had prepared a wonderful speech beforehand, as did the best man. The other three just threw out what was on their mind.
I told everyone that nobody HAD to do one, and as my other 3 BMs didn’t feel comfortable, I didn’t make them.
We also didn’t ‘open the floor’ for speeches. I’ve been to weddings where it went on for like an hour or more and was pure torture for guests. I just wanted a quick toast and be done with so people can party lol.
Opening the floor is always awkward too….long silence followed by someone who feels obligated to say something. We preferred to spare us all haha.
Post # 14
I’m not married yet, but I was Maid/Matron of Honor for a friend’s wedding. Only the best man and I gave speeches. His was more of a toast, and my speech was around 3 minutes. Everything was short and sweet and prevented the audience from being bored.
Post # 15
thanks all!! I shouldn’t have used the term ‘open up the floor’. I don’t mean anyone can do it and decide to do it on the day, it was more that no one has to do it that doesn’t want to, but if people want to prepare one they can. This gives me a good ballpark for what’s normal – perhaps we have enough volunteers as is!