Post # 16
Maid of Honor
Best Man (Groom’s Brother)
DH and I both spoke and thanked everyone for coming. I think I told everyone in advance to keep it under 3 minutes? You can also always ask people to speak at the rehearsal dinner instead of at the reception.
Post # 17
The speech and the toast were as one: Maid/Matron of Honor best man and groom
Post # 18
Haha I have to add…we planned to close the toasting/speeches with a thank you from me and hubs, but he had to do it. I took the mic first and was crying from the previous speech and couldn’t hardly get out any words without choking up lol! Embarasssssssing!
Post # 19
kept it to just father of the bride, Maid/Matron of Honor and best man as well as a thank you toast/speech from me and DH (my husband did most of the talking but we both stood). I personally am not a fan of listening to 10 speeches of everyone basically saying the same thing so I am happy with how many we did and how it kept the party moving!
Post # 20
I also emphasized toast and NOT speech to my speakers. My dad probably gave the longest one but it wasn’t “long” by any means.
Post # 21
Nice words said to us were what I wanted most of all! we did 3 each from our side. (tho my 4 besties combined to do 1). We gave a strict 2 minute time limit and also called it a toast. So that would be 12 minutes of speeches overall. not too bad we thought. my people literally timed their toasts ahead of time. 2 of his 3 went way over and basically winged it. We also split them up 3 with the first course, and then a break and then another 3, so it wasn’t a long time of listening to speeches.
my sister; a best friend; my best friend group
his sister; his friend from high school; his friend from college
Post # 22
best man, maid of honor, and my dad/step-mom. My dad/step-mom’s speech was a surprise. She read it in Russian and my dad read it after her in English. It was something that she wanted to surprise me with and it was super sweet.
Post # 23
at wedding, my mom did welcome speech, then Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man. both Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man were asked to keep under 10 minutes. Bridesmaid or Best Man went over 15 and it was just rambling. I got bored with his speech bc most of it didn’t mean anything to me.
at Rehearsal Dinner, we let bridal party give speeches and then opened it up to anyone else.
Post # 24
I’d just leave it to the number that are traditionally done in your area, even if it’s not necessarily those people i.e. you get your Mum to do a speech instead of your Dad etc.
I’m in the UK and every wedding I’ve been to, bar my eldest brother’s, has had the same traditional 3 speeches for the UK – Groom, Best Man and Father of the Bride. We plan on doing those 3 speeches, unless anyone doesn’t feel comfortable doing one (Groom and Best Man both quite shy and my Father’s speech will go through a rigorous vetting process as he can be a very eccentric).
My eldest brother’s was different as his bride and her family are Norwegian, with most of her family unable to speak English. So brother did his speech in English and a little Welsh, plus some in Norwegian. SIL then summarised the speech in Norwegian. Father of the Bride did his speech in Norwegian and SIL then summarised the speech in English for the non-Norwegian guests. They didn’t bother with a Best Man speech as all the translating was lengthening the speeches.
My Aunts’ wedding speeches were all in Welsh, with no English translation which sucked as Dad and I are the only members of Mum’s family who aren’t native Welsh speakers, and who speak no Welsh beyond ‘hello’ ‘how are you?’ etc. I was glad my SIL translated all the Norwegian for us at their wedding so everyone felt included and part of the day.
Post # 25
My dad (Father of the Bride and host)
My sister (MOH)
And the Best Man
The speeches were short and sweet.
Post # 26
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
Please note I am estranged from my family, so none of them were invited to the wedding…so we had a little more ‘time’ for speeches from the people who were there.
We did the ‘tacky’ letting everyone in the wedding party say a few words. Most of them wanted to anyways. We had a ’90 second rule’ for each of them so it didn’t get too crazy. My Father-In-Law gave a speech, and DH’s Godmother gave a speech as well (she was standing in as MOG as DH’s Mom has long passed away). Her speech was a TOTAL tear jerker talking about how proud DH’s Mom would have been of him ETC. They were both given five minutes. Then we opened the floor and a few people did get up. Then DH gave his thank you speech and I gave mine. Each of us took maybe three minutes.
It was pretty controlled for so many people! WE GOT LUCKY!