(Closed) Who did you consult before setting a date?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
5540 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think the people who need to be consulted about the date should be people that it would be devestating to not have there. For me it was our parent’s, siblings, grandparents and aunts/uncles and first cousins. Everyone else was “if they can come yay, if not, they will send a card.”

Post # 4
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly, we didn’t consult anyone. We found the venue we knew we wanted, asked for a list of open Saturdays in the summer, picked the date and paid the deposit, and then called our parents and close relatives to let them know. 

Post # 5
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We didn’t consult anybody. We really didn’t feel the need though. My mom doesn’t travel, ever. His parents travel but only Dec-April so we knew we were safe.

Post # 6
9452 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i picked the date with my Fiance and mom.  other close family members and my bridal party were notified after we signed the venue contract.  my close friends all knew i wanted an october or november date so i think my bridal party was holding that time open.

Post # 7
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

We consulted our parents and the best man and matron of honor.


It was especially important to check with my dad because he cruises all the time and we needed to make sure he didn’t already have a trip booked.

Post # 8
2684 posts
Sugar bee

Anybody who you absolutely want/need there should be taken into account, usually immediate family and wedding party.  

My Fiance and I didn’t formally consult with our families, but we did take their schedules into account when deciding.  We knew we wanted a fall wedding but realized we had to push it back a year to make it work.  FMIL is a teacher who is retiring next year, so she would not be able to attend a fall wedding in 2013.  Also 2 of my BM’s and both of my FI’s siblings are finishing up grad school and would have a lot of trouble attending a wedding this year.

Post # 9
6014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

No one really.  We just didn’t want it St. Pat’s day weekend.  Yes weekend lol.  I had no idea that my BIL’s bday was three days before and HIS anniversary was the day after ours.  DH had been pushing for a Saturday wedding, but I wanted a Friday wedding, had no idea we could have been married on their anniversary.  I’m sure they wouldn’t have cared but still …. Now I’m in charge of the calendar lol. 

Post # 10
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We didn’t really consult with anyone but I had things ruled out like the dead of summer, went to a wedding once and was so sick from the heat. And I also ruled out November because there’s so many birthday that month in our family. December was out because there’s enough going on with Christmas. When I knew I wanted Spring the only thing I checked was when is Easter and when is Greek Easter.

Post # 11
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I consulted with my caterer because I knew that time of year was busy for him. He does BBQ cookoffs and had competitions in Jan/Feb when we wanted the wedding. Got two dates cleared from him, asked the Church, one worked out, ta-da!

Does consulting football schedules count, too? We didn’t want to get married during college football season, or on Superbowl weekend. We’re both huge fans and wanted to avoid conflicts with games we wanted to see.

Post # 13
6 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

Close family and wedding party.  Even after this, it turned out that one of my relatives I asked to be in the wedding has another wedding to be in that day!

Post # 15
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only people we actually consulted were the band. We knew which band we wanted and that we wanted a Saturday in September, so the first thing we did was check which dates they had available. We didn’t ask anyone else what they had going on, we chose our date 16 months in advance, very few people plan that far away. 

Post # 16
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

No one really, but we’re getting married on a Saturday in March so we knew there wouldn’t be too much conflict. We booked it more than a year in advance so we knew there wouldn’t be any trips planned. I also made sure not to come too close to any important dates.

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