(Closed) Who did you consult before setting a date?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 17
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Busy bee

We are 38 and didn’t consult anyone.  ALTHOUGH – after I started planning, I told my sister, she informed me that was my neices graduation date – long story short =’s lots of drama and hissy fits – so we secretly changed the date to avoid her adult temper tantrums – she still thinks it’s on my neices graduation date though, we want her to stew in that for a while after her dramatic behavior, LOL oh well…

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

We didn’t consult with a single soul but ourselves. 

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Phtographer! Have to ask what dates she has available and plan around that

Post # 20
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Honey bee

Nobody. We got the last Fall Saturday available at the venue and booked it. It was a year and a half in advance and not close to any graduations, family weddings, etc.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge

I think both parents should be consulted, as they might know about restrictions from other family members before you do. Regarding your FI’s brother’s wedding.. I think two months is an adequate amount of time between the two events, especially as travel is only required for your wedding. Would his brother & new wife be able to attend your wedding?

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Nobody. We picked our date almost 2 years in advance so people had plenty of notice. 

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

we didn’t consult anyone. well. i consulted my calendar (but that doesn’t count as a person). i didn’t want to share an anniversary. but aside from that, we chose our date without asking anyone else. we chose it, and then told people. we chose our date over 2 years in advance though. so that made it easier.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My sister had told me I couldn’t get married in April, May, or September this year or May or September next year. So I figured if I was overly accomodating and didn’t pick any of those 5 months, it better work for her. Also, she wanted me to get married before her daughter turned 2 so she could fly for free. We checked with both sets of parents, and with the band 🙂

Post # 25
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Helper bee

We checked with parents (mine said anything was fine, his asked us to push it as late as possible within our suggested range) and consulted the calendar for holidays or major events in our town (and school calendars — we wanted to have it during the school year to discourage lots of kids, which might sound cruel but was just practical for us), then asked our priest what worked for him. Everyone else could make it or not; we don’t have a wedding party.

We didn’t announce our engagement officially until after we set the date, which was the most trying part of it! I was itching to tell people for a month.

Post # 26
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We checked with his family for a general time frame.  They basically said everything is ok except for one week where they had a scheduled vacation.  Then I just checked with my mom on the actual day, cause there were lots of rules to follow with auspicious dates.

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Family to make sure there were no conflicts and the calender for holidays.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We kind of consulted 2 of the groomsmen, because both would need to travel internationally with families and both work in finance (our wedding is right at the 2nd quarter end).  But the biggest factor was church availability, almost everything was booked for the summer months, so this was the big do or die – finding something we could live with that’s avaliable in June-July.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just my fiance. No one else.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We didn’t ask anyone.. we picked a date and that was it. We were 16 months out, so chances were that no one had plans already. And it didn’t end up conflicting with anything. A few people have since gotten invited to other events on our date, but they were already committed to our wedding, so they just declined those invites.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we didn’t consult anyone. i have a lot of teachers in my family, so i knew that may/june wasn’t a good month because they’re always so busy at that time of year, but i didn’t want june anyway, so that wasn’t really an issue. 

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