Post # 1
Another bee who is not even TTC yet… just curious…
So who did you exactly tell before the end of your 1st trimester?
I don’t want to tell everyone just in case something does happen but I want my close family friends to know. I have 3 siblings so if I tell one and others will know and what about other family and friends. I think its going to be a dance for me. The ‘who should I tell’ dance. haha
I know I will definitely tell my parents and maybe my sister. Did you tell them to keep it a secret until you are farther along?
Post # 3
well, i’m not TTC yet either, but before my 1st trimester, i would only tell my husband (obviously), my sister, my parents and his parents. unfortanley, i would have to let work know (i’m military, so they kind of have to know) but if work doesn’t need to know, then don’t tell them if you’re not comfortable with it. only tell whoever you’re comfortable with when the time comes.
Post # 4
We’re only telling my parents and one of our good couple friends who are only 3 weeks ahead of me (much easier to hang out since we’re all in the same boat). Other than that we’re telling my grandparents at 12 weeks and everyone else (including his family) at 14 or 15 weeks when I’m back from a work trip. My grandparents get to find out earlier b/c it’s my grandma’s birthday.
Post # 5
No one! except my husband , of course.
For my second pregnancy, I didn’t even tell him I was pregnant until I was 5 months along. It makes your pregnancy go so much faster.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park
We just went ahead and told everyone. My husband was too excited to keep it in, and I didn’t want my friends to find out through a passing facebook comment or something, so I told them too. If it had gone as I’d planned, we probalby would have just told family and a few key friends who know how to keep their mouths shut 😉 We’re at week 10, so only 2 weeks to go before I’m in the clear! I cannot wait
Post # 7
@julies1949: Whoa. I just read that to my husband and he just about fainted that you waited that long to tell your husband. Out of curiosity, did he have any adverse reaction from you keeping that important information from him for so long?
Post # 8
We told our parents, siblings (and siblings’ spouses) immediately. I told two of my closest friends almost immediately and another couple friends just before the end of the 1st trimester and we told DH’s very good friend and his wife just before the end of the 1st trimester too (we needed their advice on what to do next!) My parents broadcast the news like CNN pretty early on (oh well) and I think my Mother-In-Law leaked it to a couple people before the end of the 1st trimester too. All in all I’m guessing about 20 people knew before the end of the 1st trimester. We didn’t make any major announcements (email/phone/facebook) until a couple weeks into the 2nd trimester because by then we knew they were twins and we wanted to have another doctor’s appointment before we spread the word even further. Thankfully we’re all doing well so far so just hoping the next 17 weeks go as smoothly as the first 21!
Post # 9
We only told people at work because I had to stop flying till my 2nd trimester.
We waited until 12 weeks to tell everyone else.
Post # 10
Only immediate family. I did not even announce it on Facebook until after we’d had the gender ultrasound at like 18 weeks.
Oh, well, and work, because I was there everyday and they needed to know. LOL.
Post # 11
I don’t think I would tell anyone except Darling Husband until 12 weeks, but that is just me.
Post # 12
Lots of people.
I told my family around 7 weeks for my moms birthday. And before I had said we haven’t told many people yet my dad had texted like 5 of his friends. So their neighborhood knew. A couple of my sisters also had broken out their phones (take phones away or something before you tell people) so then I decided to tell my close friends so they didn’t find out from someone else.
Once we saw the heartbeat around 9 weeks we told coworkers and other close friends, my husband was going to explode from not telling people and someone he worked with had already been harrassing him telling him I was pregnant. Actually a few people guessed really early on, I hadn’t gained weight and didn’t have morning sickness, but some people could tell.
I didn’t mention anything baby related on facebook though until 20 weeks when we found out she was a little girl.
Post # 13
We told our immediate families (parents, siblings, nephews) and our best friends a couple days after we found out. I imagine my whole extended family knew within a few days of telling my parents. 🙂 My boss guessed at about 6 weeks, and my husband told his boss before the end of the first trimester, I think. We never made any official announcements on Facebook or through email or anything; around 15 weeks, one of co-workers guessed, and she spread the word pretty quickly to almost everyone else!
Post # 14
We told our immediate families during the first trimester (after we had an ultrasound).
From there we told a few very close friends around 10 weeks and will tell all of our friends and extended family right around 13 weeks.
You just have to do what works for you. I have been so excited to tell everyone that not telling anyone until after the first tri was too hard.
Post # 15
We told absolutely no one until after 13 weeks. It was super hard to keep the secret but since I wasn’t really sick I didn’t NEED to tell anyone, plus it was kind of nice that my husband and I could keep it all to ourselves for a while – because once everyone knows they will ask you DAILY how you feel/what you’re having/if you have a name etc.
I JUST posted some pictures on facebook (at 20 weeks) but the album is private to my family and closest friends.
Post # 16
my mom & dad, my big sister, my partners parents and two of my closest friends. He told two of his cloest friends and his flatmates (he was proud I guess hah).
I actually did not tell the rest of our families until near the end of my second trimester.
As soon as I did my mom told her entire work place!