(Closed) Who did YOU take dress shopping?

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
6980 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I just went with my mom. My one local Bridesmaid or Best Man came to 2 shops with us (we went to 4 total). To me it was just right. I don’t need an audience. It was nice to just have the day with my mom… especially since we live a few hours apart and she isn’t as involved in planning as she’d like. 

Post # 4
1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I took absolutely no one and I am so glad that I did.  I’m not the type that needs validation from other people as to how I look in something (hello Say Yes to the Dress girls who love the dress, then look longingly at their best friend/ mother/ etc to agree).  Note:  This isn’t a knock on the OP or anyone in the thread who takes people with them.  I was thinking about taking a girlfriend or look who wanted to go with me, but decided against it because I didn’t want them making it about them, which it seems like so many people do.  I didn’t want anyone else’s opinion.

I went to 2 different stores.  The second store, I found my perfect dress.  I emailed my mom a picture from the designer’s website and then she bought it for me.  The dress was perfect for me and I absolutely loved it.

Post # 5
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

oh my gosh I took everyone – my mom, my step mom and little sister, Mr. HC’s mom and sister, my cousin, my great aunt, my aunt (but she couldn’t come last minute) and two close friends.  It was an army!  It worked for me but I’ll admit I was nervous about it beforehand!

Post # 6
591 posts
Busy bee

I went by myself. My parents and sister/BM live 8 hours away, while my Maid/Matron of Honor is a 5-hour flight. It was still enjoyable for me, and because I didn’t have a crowd to contend with, the fittings went a lot faster. If I didn’t like a dress, it came off as soon as I saw myself in the mirror. There was no second guessing, no asking for validation.

Post # 7
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Private home

I took a friend to take pictures at my first stop and then went by myself for the second stop. I found the dress at the second stop and needed a little verification, so I took my boss (I work in a costume shop) and when she started gasping I knew I had the right dress!

Post # 8
1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The first time, I took my mom only (MOH/ sister didn’t want to go).

Second time (when I first tried on ‘the one’), I was with my mom and Bridesmaid or Best Man. 

The third time (I went back to try on and order ‘the one’), I was with my mom, my sister and Future Mother-In-Law (she cried! so sweet).

I am very close with my mom and feel lucky that she has made sure that she is available for me when I want/ need her.

Post # 9
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

I took my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor, and my officiant (another best girlfriend) and one of our groomsmen (with fabulous taste) came with me to pick it up.

Post # 10
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I took my mom and my sister (my MOH).  I knew they would be honest and let me know what they thought looked good or not.  But of course, my mom isn’t one to pull any punches with comments about weight, lol, so I was definitely nervous, but it was a lot of fun and we all enjoyed it.  We actually found my dress that first time!

Post # 11
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My mom, her best friend and my maid of honor. When we had fittings I brought my grandmother too because i wanted her to be included and see the dress also!

Post # 12
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

The first two times I only took my Mom. My Dad came to Kleinfeld’s in the city too & then the 3 of us went to dinner.

I meant to bring a few others to more appointments (FMIL, Future Sister-In-Law, 2MOH’s) but I ended up buying one of the first gowns I tried on so there were no other appointments. 


Post # 13
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I only went with my mom and I am so happy that I did.  Having too many people there may make the whole experience too stressful. 


Post # 14
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I went by myself because I can be easily influenced by others. Plus, it was last minute, so no one could get off from work anyway. Honestly, I don’t regret it because no one saw my dress until it was fitted to me.

Post # 15
2593 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The very first time (when I didn’t expect to find my dress) I took my Maid/Matron of Honor and my Bridesmaid or Best Man. It was a very special moment 🙂 Then later I took Future Mother-In-Law and my mother back with me to look at it.

Post # 16
1915 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have had a few shopping experiences, so maybe the variety can help you!

First time shopping, I took my bridesmaid Future Sister-In-Law who is only 16. She was bored in between while I was changing, but she loved seeing the dresses, and she is very honest and open with her opinion. We had a blast, but I didn’t find the one that day. Tried on some dresses that helped me shape my vision, though. Great for having fun and getting ideas but probably not the kind of companion to take for a serious “buy the dress right now and decide” trip.

I went another time with my mom. She and I have an awkward relationship that has since then deteriorated quite a bit, so replace “mom” here with any person you feel obligated towards but may not truly value his or her opinion. I ended up being influenced by emotions, and I bought a dress that I almost immediately regreted and would not have bought had I been alone. Oh, well! I have since sold it and am still trying to find the right one.

So I went another time with my self-proclaimed “straight, gay friend.” He is straight but has hoards of female friends, and we are pretty close. That was one of the best times because he brought a book and did his own thing while I was changing and talking with the sales consultant. He then offered some good though surprising opinions, which were kind of nice to hear because I considering him an unbiased source. So, take away from this that you if you take someone for opinions, make sure it is someone who you trust to tell the truth and not what you want to hear. I was cooing over an A-line lace dress, and while he liked it, I was really surprised that his favorite was a slim sweetheart with ruching. I consider myself plank-line and hadn’t taken it too seriously before that.

And finally, I have gone alone. Right after I bought the first dress, I needed to go alone and clear my head. It was my way of reaffirming that I could find something that would make me feel good. I prefer to do my serious clothes shopping alone anyway, so this made sense for me. I am presently looking onlined for used dresses, so it will be alone if I find it that way, too.

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