(Closed) Who did you take dress shopping for the first time?!

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1759 posts
Buzzing bee

My two bridesmaids who are local (there’s a third who isn’t local) came with me the first few times. My mom and Future Mother-In-Law came for the same weekend and we went again and I heppened to find my dress then, but no one was mad that I had gone before.

Post # 4
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I went alone, but that’s b/c I had NO idea what I wanted and wasn’t going to the bridal shops first.  I went to vintage stores and resale shops.  If I were doing the whole big bridal shop thing, I would think that just mom is appropriate.  Did she explain why she was upset about Future Mother-In-Law coming?

I can see how she might be hurt that she has to share the experience that many mother spend their daughters childhoods dreaming of.  Especially if you’re her only child.  

If you’ve already invited Future Mother-In-Law, don’t retract the invite- that would cause more tension.  Does your Future Mother-In-Law have daughters?  If not, you could tell your Mom that it may be FMIL’s only chance to experience something like this and wouldn’t it be nice to give her that experience?

And maybe be sure to do something extra special with your mom only, like pick out jewelry just with her.  Or only take her to your hair trial.  

Post # 6
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I took my mother who was in town at the time and my brother’s girlfriend so she could try on a wedding dress (they plan on getting married in less than a year). When I pick up my finished dress, I am taking my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law since my mom isn’t in town.

Post # 7
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I really do see both sides. Did your Future Mother-In-Law ask to go, or did you volunteer?  Either way, what’s done is done, and I don’t think you were in the wrong.  Maybe you could grab a fancy brunch with just your mom the morning of, and bring some magazines to “brainstorm,” even if you already know what you want.  It might help your mom feel like she gets a little more “you,” time on a day that’s obviously important to her.    

Post # 9
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I took my mom and my Maid/Matron of Honor. I actually got my dress the first [and obviously only] time I went looking. I later showed my Future Mother-In-Law, and she said it was beautiful. I don’t think she minded that I didn’t ask her. I’m glad I took who I did, especially now that my Maid/Matron of Honor has now moved to the complete other side of the country.

Post # 10
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think your Future Mother-In-Law and Maid/Matron of Honor are perfectly fine to have there along with your mum… I am the only girl and had just my mum and Maid/Matron of Honor. I personally would not invite my Future Mother-In-Law, but that is only due to the type of relationship we have. I can see why your mum would be upset, but from the sounds of it she is getting too upset about it. She doesnt have you exclusively, she needs to learn to share this experience (along with others in the future) with other people.

Post # 11
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just took my mom…sadly I moved away from all my friends in December 🙁 Would have liked to have my maids, but oh well!

Post # 12
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went alone! And to be honest.. I LOVED IT! I think when I finally get my dress I will go alone, and buy it on the spot. . 🙂 

Post # 13
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

The first time I ever went, it was just me and my mom.  🙂

Post # 14
9829 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

well i went browsing for fun a couple weeks ago with one of my bridesmaids, didn’t go to try anything on, i really want my mum to come on my first proper dress shopping experience though

Post # 15
595 posts
Busy bee

I brought just my mom. My Future Mother-In-Law was working, one of my bridesmaids was working and not going to be available to go anytime soon and my other bridesmaid (my sister) lives in Georgia, and since we are a bit behind the pace planning for a Sept. wedding I wanted to go ASAP. 

Post # 16
6014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

When I went dress shopping my Future Mother-In-Law lived 15 hours away.  My mom passed away, so I brought my Dad, my Maid/Matron of Honor (who is my SIL), my niece (a BM), and my two flower girls (one is my niece and the other is my great niece).  We were done in about 2 hours, and I went with the first dress I tried on, you know the only one that made my Dad tear up.  He’s a great person to take dress shopping!!

I did text my Future Mother-In-Law a pic of me in the dress before we even left the store.

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