Post # 1
I just got engaged 2 weeks ago as some of you may know and I am getting married next April. I am about to start wedding dress shopping…so I was wondering…who did you take with you to try on wedding dresses? Most of my bridesmaids are out of town and I dont particularly like having an audience…so I was just think my mom and a very important close family friend of mine…Who did you take to go wedding dress shopping with you?
Post # 3
On one trip I took my mom, an aunt and my grandmother. On the trip where I found my dress I took my Maid/Matron of Honor and two bridesmaids. I wouldn’t take more than 3 or 4 people.
Post # 4
I went once with my sister in law and then the other two times with my sister who is also my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 5
My first several visits: all by my lonesome. My first trip was to Kleinfeld. I wanted my Bridesmaid or Best Man to go. I wanted my mom to go. They both wanted to go too, but neither made it. Then I went to a few more places by myself due in part to scheduling conflicts and in part because I liked how productive it was to evaluate how *I* felt about the dresses with no one else interfering.
The next time I go dress shopping, it will probably be back to Kleinfeld so I can purchase my dress and probably try on a few others just to make sure. I am actually applying to be on SYTTD because my entire entourage watches the show and loves it (my mom excluded)–I’ll be going with mom, Maid/Matron of Honor, aunt, and three younger cousins, who will be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man, and ring bearer!
Post # 6
I took my one bridesmaid the first time because she was excited and wanted to go, but she is in high school and I felt bad because I could tell she was getting pretty bored. The second time I went, I took my mom, mostly to humor her and give her the wedding experience (we are not really close). She loved my dress, which is part of why I bought it, so yeah, that was not a great idea on my part.
If/when I go in the future (since I am trying to sell the previously mentioned poor decision dress), I think I will go alone until I have it narrowed down to a top few and then see if friends want to go. Unless there is one that blows the others out of the water, in which case, I’d probably just buy it alone.
Definitely fewer is better!
Post # 7
That sounds like a good, small group to me.
I went once with my Maid/Matron of Honor (who lives far away), once by myself, and twice with my mom and sister. It was nice having just a few people who will give me honest opinions!
Post # 8
The first time I went I took just my mom, which was good because a lot of times I couldn’t figure out why a dress wasn’t working right, and having an honest set of eyes was useful. The next three times I went by my self. I live 300 miles from any person connected to my wedding (the first trip was over a visit to my mom’s town) so I didn’t really have any one to go with. I actually loved going by myself. I felt like I had a much clearer head, and I’m someone who gets discouraged easily when shopping, so by myself, I could go and try on as many or as few as I wanted.
Once I had picked out my dress, I had my mom come up to visit for the weekend. I tried it on again for her and bought it then.
I would say whatever you do, only bring people who are concerned with finding what you want, rather than trying to get you to wear what they want. My mom and I couldn’t have more different taste in dresses, but she knew how to support me even when the stuff I loved was nothing that she would have picked out herself.
Post # 9
I’m a big fan of going with just one or two people you trust instead of bringing a gob of friends and relatives along who all have different tastes and styles than you do. That is the biggest advice I have for you. I also like the idea of the dress being a suprise for almost everyone on wedding day, so the less people you bring, the less people who have seen it and the bigger a surprise it is! 🙂
I never went dress shopping with any of my friends. I love them all dearly, but I’m glad I didn’t go with any of them. To be sure I was including my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law in the wedding plans, I invited them along for two full days of dress shopping…aaaaand though I really love them both very much and appreciated the time I got to spend with them, they both have a completely 100% different style than I do and they hated everything I loved and vise versa. So while the quality time with them was nice, it was emotionally really kind of difficult because I felt like I wasn’t able to please anyone and I couldn’t really enjoy the things I liked without feeling down about it.
Finally, I went with my mom and my dad (which is what I should have done – and what I wanted to do – all along). I wanted their opinions because I love and trust them both immensly. I knew that they would encourage me to follow my heart and choose the dress that I love best, but I also knew they would truthfully tell me which dresses looked best on me and which just looked okay. Having my dad’s opinions and input meant a lot to me.I ended up finding and purchasing my dress with my mom and dad because I felt zero pressure and only support and love and honesty and that was awesome!
Post # 10
wow ladies thanks…so me not wanting to go with like 8 people is normal? that makes me happy. I want maybe 2 people 3 at most…and apparently thats pretty normal!
Post # 11
The first time (which ended up my only time) I took my mom, my two sisters, and my soon to be mother in law. That was plenty for me, and everyone was completely supportive of what I wanted. They all gave their opinions of each dress, but when I got it narrowed down to three dresses, they all kept quiet until I chose the dress on my own. When I go for my first fitting im going to take my BM’s (minus my two sisters) to see the dress.
Post # 12
My first trip immediately after being engaged (well, kind of) I took my mom and we went to one shop. We looked around, didn’t try anything on and left. Second trip, I took my dad and we found the dress I ultimately bought almost right away. We also went to David’s and I tried on dresses there and figured out exactly what I wanted. The third trip was mostly to make sure I really loved the dress I’d picked out in my head and I had my dad, mom and younger sister there while I looked at it. Mistake on my part on the last one (my parents are divorcing) and I wish I’d only brought my dad rather than everyone who went. I also invited my older sister, but she was too busy to go.
Post # 13
The first round, I took my mom, grandma, and a Bridesmaid or Best Man. The second round I just took my mom, grandma, and sister. I could not have imagined going with more people. I think 3 was just perfect.
Post # 14
I went with one of my BM’s. I really wanted my mom to be there too but she lives 3000 miles away so it wasn’t possible.
Post # 15
I went by myself! Everyone lives out of town, and I just really wanted to avoid a big deal about trying on dresses. I took photos and solicited opinions with family via e-mail. I am very happy that I did it this way.
Post # 16
I only went to one shop but went twice. The first time I took a friend who had bought her dress at this bridal shop and who I felt would give me an honest opinion and not be afraid to tell me if I looked bad. We had a great time, drank champagne, then went to a fancy lunch for cocktails afterwards. The 2nd time was the time I bought my dress and well it was sort of like oh hey they have a going out of business sign out, holy crap they have my dress, went in with the fiance and bought it. I think it’s best to someone who doesn’t want to push their ideas of the perfect wedding gown on to you but rather wants to help you find YOUR dress.