Okay I have to represent for the non-perfect/non-funny side of the engagement reveal. Let me start by saying that the proposal itself was AWESOME and I choose to remember that about the day… not what happened later. So, here is the story:
Fiance and I had been together over 2.5 years and we all pretty much knew he was going to propose. I was really excited but my parents were nervous. They just have a hard time warming up to people and my brother had just gotten engaged not too long before… I think she was just really hoping that Fiance waited until after my brother’s wedding to propose.
So Fiance and I had a vacation planned to Mexico for my bday. I told my mom that I’d call her when we got to the hotel to let her know we had made it okay. We got to Mexico about 4pm and it took us a while to get through and get to the hotel. I bought a phone card but when we got to the room realized that I couldn’t use it from the room phone, so I made a mental note to walk down to the lobby to use the payphone to call my mom but then promptly forgot.
Fiance and I took a walk on the beach, hung out for a while, went back to the room to wash up, then went for a second walk down the beach which is when he proposed. By the time we got back to the room it was maybe 9:30 at night (or about 5 hours after my mom expected a call… and I am NOT a person who forgets to call).
Obviously I remember at this point and decide to try to call.. but it costs $8/minute from the room phone and I couldn’t use my phone card at the payphone either (why did they even sell the stupid phone cards?) so the front desk gave me a number that my parents could call the hotel at so it wouldn’t be so expensive. So I call my parents and say really fast “Hi mom I’m fine sorry I didn’t call but this is costing $8/minute and I want to talk so please call me back at *******”. Then like 30 minutes passes and they don’t call.
Apparently the number didn’t work. So at this point my parents had been (apparently) REALLY worried about us because we were 5 hours late calling, it was past midnight their time on a weeknight (way past their bedtime), they were frustrated because they couldn’t find a number to actually get through to us at the hotel, they didn’t know what happened to us, and on top of that were kind of hoping we didn’t get engaged…..
So she finally calls and is ranting about how hard it was to get through and I”m like “mom— I’m fine. I’m engaged!”
Her response: “Oh no….. are you sure?”
Clearly I was upset. And I REALLY did not want Fiance to know that she wasn’t super happy so I was metering my response so he wouldn’t know. So she asked the appropriate questions… how/where/when/whats the ring like and then we left. It was a huge huge let-down. I was really upset that she rained on my engagement parade like that.
I didn’t tell Fiance (and still haven’t because I don’t want to give him a reason not to like her) and the next morning used the internet cafe to write her a long email telling her that like it or not, I was getting married and she could be a part of it or not.
Then I went on and enjoyed my week and did NOT let it ruin my AMAZING birthday trip, vacation, engagement, etc. We had a fabulous time 🙂
And by the time I was back on US soil she had metered herself and was much more pleasant about the whole thing. I don’t know that she is genuinely happy about the marriage still… but she at least is being a willing and helpful participant and keeping any bad thoughts she has to herself, which is really all I can ask.